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Episode 178 - Lt.Gen. (Ret.) Michelle Johnson - Leaders On Leadership

TLP 178 | Cadet Wing Commander

Leadership isn't just about the stars on your shoulders; it's about having the courage to step into the unknown, where you might just learn how to fly. In this inspiring episode, we have Retired Lieutenant General Michelle Johnson to share her journey of breaking barriers in leadership. As the first woman to ever become a Cadet Wing Commander in the U.S. Air Force Academy, she paved the way for future generations of leaders. Today, she dives into the core principles of leadership such as the importance of courage, vision, and managing up. She shares her experiences in managing complex international relationships, navigating the political landscape, and persuading those who hold power. Lt. Gen. Johnson's leadership journey shows how having faith in yourself and your ability to adapt can lead you to new heights. Tune in now!

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Lt.Gen. (Ret.) Michelle Johnson - Leaders on Leadership

I am so excited. My guest is Retired Lieutenant General Michelle Johnson. General, welcome.

Thanks so much for having me, Tracey. It's been so good to know someone from my decade at the Air Force Academy.

Let me tell you a little bit about Retired Lieutenant General Michelle Johnson. She was in the class of ‘81 at the United States Air Force Academy. It’s my alma mater, so you know how tremendous she is. ‘81 was the second class of women that graduated. She was also the first female cadet to be named Cadet Wing Commander, which is quite the deal, and she later went on to become the first female officer to serve as the Air Force Academy Superintendent.

She was our 19th sup. Currently, she is the one and only female who has been appointed to be the superintendent of one of the service academies. Talk about a trailblazer, Michelle. Not only that, she was also inducted into the inaugural class of the United States Air Force Academy Athletic Hall of Fame and a Rhodes scholar.

While in uniform, she served as the Air Force Aide to the President, an Air Force Squadron, and Group and Wing Commander. Let me tell you. She was in C-141s, KC-10s, KC-135s, C-5s, and C-17s, and she also worked at the NATO/SHAPE, where she was a Deputy Chief of Staff Intel and operations. She also served with the NBA as the senior vice president and head of referee operations. She is married to the tremendous John Hargreaves. She’s a retired pilot and the happy parent of two sons. Michelle, I wish you would have focused and done something with your life. I salute you. I’m starstruck.

This is how I connected with Michelle. This is the tremendous people you meet in the book you read. In September 2023, I was in Philly. Many of you know, I talk about the American College of Financial Services often and I have the blessing of serving on their Center for Military and Veterans Affairs. Every year, they do a Soldier Citizen Clambake Award and we gave the award to Admiral Mullen from the Navy this past September. While I was there, I had the amazing honor of connecting and sitting at the table with Michelle. That's where we met. Michelle, do you want to tell them about your connection with the American College of Financial Services?

It's been a wonderful association. I was a friend and colleague in the Air Force with the Provost when I was on faculty at the Air Force Academy. Gwen Hall was as well, and she introduced me to the new CEO of the American College, George Nichols, who was a transformational leader. You could talk with him sometime.

I was born in Iowa without a lot of means. He was born in Kentucky without a lot of means, but he made his way through New York Life Insurance and he's come back to give back and to take this college. That had been a designated correspondent school for people in the financial industry to take it to the next level.

To not only help make it a robust educational opportunity for people and financial services but to help apply practical financial knowledge to people who need it in underrepresented communities like veterans. I’m trying to be a great supporter of the Veterans Center that you're an advisor for, but he's also in the Centers for African-Americans, members of the financial community, and families with people who suffer disabilities. They have special financial planning challenges.

To try to attend to the realities that human beings are still within life but maybe haven't been touched by knowledge of financial practices and how things work. The whole atmosphere of service reminds me a little bit about the service you and I tried to provide to our country but in a different way to serve others to build community. That's what drew me. I’m so honored to be one of the trustees on the board of trustees for the college.

Thank you for sharing that and I love that you said come back to give back. As we transition through a lot of our readers, they're on their second, third, and fourth careers and they keep coming back to continue to give back. Michelle, my father, wrote a speech called The Price of Leadership many years ago. It's one of the ones that has been most downloaded because it's very raw, authentic, and practical.

In it, he talks about the things that you are going to have to be paying as a price to be a leader and not just a leader in name only. I can't wait to hear your take on this, especially the first one, loneliness. There were few women in my class ’88. There was ‘97 in the first class of females at the Air Force Academy, so you're already a small group but tend to be the first, the one, the only. Can you unpack what loneliness looks like for you at a time in your career as leadership and what you would share with our audience if they're going through a season of it?

There are different angles of it, as you point out, to go and suddenly become a minority. I’m from Northwest Iowa, so I was not in a minority there. As a woman, we're half part of the humanity but also as a wide-angle Saxon Protestant. I went to the Air Force Academy and suddenly, from being a woman and a lot of other factors, I was a minority.

It was a new idea to people. They didn't study the history. We could talk about this more later, but what was happening when I graduated from high school in 1977, all volunteer forces needed everybody. All hands on deck. We can't draft people now and it can't be one certain group of people. We need everybody in an all-volunteer military force. I didn't know that at that time.

I thought it was an opportunity for education. I was a basketball player but also to serve for a while. It was lonely and shocking. It was aggressive. It’s like, “In your face, you don't belong here,” kind of lonely. You have to cleave to what you believe, what you're striving for, and what's the shared purpose. Some officers, cadets, men, and women did as well.

You don't belong here, but for every one of those, there were 5 or 10 great educators and mentors who'd say, “You're capable of this. Why don't you try it? Why don't you try for a scholarship? Make sure you're in the flying program.” I didn't know it. It says the Air Force Academy. I know that, but my family was farmers. They didn’t even think about that. That's part of it, but the structural loneliness thing is part of some things.

I found as I got more senior, I was in uniform for 40 years, basically if you include the four years from the Academy. At the end of my career, I was more senior and I’d be put in different organizations to help solve problems. I was a stranger because I hadn't been in their community or their tribe for a long time. It was professional loneliness. You haven't done what we've done. It was a very interesting skillset, but I think there were similarities.

Part of being a leader, if you wish to do that, is to be out of your comfort zone and move other people out of their comfort zone. You may have read Marty Linsky's work, Adaptive Leadership. This isn't a military thing. This is modern leadership. Leadership isn't always conforming, following the rules, and checking the box.

Part of being a leader is to be out of your comfort zone and move other people out of their comfort zone.

That's management. What do you need to do? Management is super important. You got to do that. If you don't, keep the books or you're in trouble. If you want to adapt to new things, new demands, or new missions, you need to move an organization and yourself out of your comfort zone. That's lonely and it's in your new territory. You're not where you want to be yet, but you're pretty far from shore. You need to find a way to move forward and to understand it.

Understanding the history of how you got there to prepare and say, “How do we get here? Where we're trying to go?” and then communicate that to help you see the loneliness. It's a real thing. I deployed one time when I was in KC-10s in the ‘90s. We spent a lot of time deployed in Abu Dhabi in the United Arab Emirates. I could give tours of Abu Dhabi.

During the First Gulf War, we called that Show Air Force Base or Show Abu Dhabi.

It's very elaborate now, evidently, but we were still intense and then the rocks out there. We would deploy from our Squadron. Our Squadron was in California, Travis Air Force Base, between Sacramento and San Francisco. Usually, when you are deployed, you take on the next level of responsibilities. My captains and majors had to take roles as schedulers and flight commanders at a greater level than they would have had at home. I ran into one of our majors. We're standing outside at 135 degrees, which was something I should admit was a bad idea. He stopped me. I was a lieutenant colonel and he said, “I get it now. It's lonely being in charge of people or being responsible.” He was feeling it.

He said, “When you walk in the room, people stop talking because now you're them. It's us and them and now you're them.” If you can prove that you care about them at the shared mission more than yourself, everybody benefits. However, if you try to act remotely and act like you're the warlord and you're the strong person leader, “Do what I say. I’m the boss,” the divide is worse and it's terrible for everybody.

If you can prove that you care about them at the shared mission more than yourself, everybody benefits.

Unfortunately, when I ran into people in the private sector, sometimes they think that's what leadership is. You're the boss and you tell people what to do. What I learned, on the contrary, is how did we get here and where are we going? Communicate that. Be consistent and fair and people will come along with you and help accomplish tremendous things despite there being tremendous in this thing.

We've had a lot of people in the military. I know they get to the colonel level and then they go into these staff positions. They're in more civilian sectors outside of their tribe and you have to show you care and share. Otherwise, I’ve seen some bad culture clashes and it chewed up some great people and spent them out.

When you come out of wearing the uniform after 40 years, we have people in our tremendous tribe who are leaving entrepreneurship or life insurance to go and do the next chapter. When you came out of uniform, I know, like me, it is different because it's such a collective. It's such camaraderie. It's so much fun. It's so crazy and scary. I think of that loneliness. It’s like, “I was a chiropractor for 30 years and now I’m not.” Where are you at right now in that transition because I know it hasn't been all that long.

I retired in 2017 from the Air Force and I left the NBA in 2019. I’m going to touch on some of the other points you're going to bring up because I think what your dad hit on applies. A part of it is an executive leadership. I became a generalist, by the way. Executive leadership is being a generalist because the main thing you are an expert at, perhaps for a long time, is one of many things you're in charge of.

Your confidence as a professional may have been based on that competence in a particular flying that plane, so all the plans had different cultures too. Each crew, the way you pronounce the checklist, there’s a different culture. There’s the way you did the bag drag. I flew cargo around the world in C-141 on the ground.

It’s the next thing up from a C-130. You’re in the dirt working. You’re considered knucklebusters. You dragged your own bag, helped each other, and helped with maintenance. KC-10s were like Gucci. These are fancy planes. We wear headsets and park at different places. It’s a different way to communicate and maneuver.

I had a pretty collective career in the Air Force, even operationally, but when I would talk with the senior officials, even civilians in the DoD, let alone, as you said, in the private sector, you can be a specialist for about so long and then when you go into management or leadership, you're responsible for a varied spectrum of skillsets.

I found people whose confidence was based on the specific. In their competence, they lost their confidence because now I’m managing people who know more about many things than I do. I was going to talk about the letting go part or my angle on abandonment. Part of it is letting go of, “I know what I know, but I’m going to let go of my ego and let go of my fear that I don't know everything. My fear of I can't control everything.”

Let go and empower the ones next to you. That was the last sixteen years of my career in the Air Force. I went from a flying wing to being in charge of personnel, air mobility command, and public affairs for the Air Force. What do I know about that? I know about bringing people together in their expertise and doing their homework.

We visited USAA and the senior vice president for corporate communication. How do you communicate in a big enterprise to try to get better? I had my public affairs experts learn. They knew more about setting up a press conference than I did and that's okay. I had to let go. I had a lot of people who are in the military or support people like the Navy Supply Corps.

The logo on their collar looks like a pork chop, so other people operators call them pork chops, which is terrible. That’s a terrible thing. Not because it’s not respectful but because the people who work for me who are in Navy Supply went to Harvard Business School. They are smart about supply chains, big logistics, and the national power source, so I tried to assemble teams who could solve problems.

That’s what I became. I was a change agent because we would have to do things differently. It would take a few months to earn people’s trust that I do care more about the mission and myself. I’m going to be okay. I was blessed that John was home taking care of me and the boys. He said that was his mission. The home was not relaxing because we had twin babies. When they were toddlers, they pinned on my Brigadier General Stars. The home was incredibly not restful but empowering and full of love. It was safe and recharging, so I didn’t have anything to lose. I want to do my best.

When people realize that whether they were at Fort Meade with cyber, when we did cyber command, or when I wound up at NATO/SHAPE in the Southern part of Belgium with generals from other countries who had never been around a woman General officer because other countries haven’t done that yet, they had to deal with me.

Sometimes, I had to be tough to get their attention because I’m 5’8” on a good day or used to be. My voice isn't baritone. Sometimes, if I say things nicely and quietly the first 2 or 3 times, they don't hear it. I learned something. I don't know if Armand Hammer said this. Somebody else besides me said this, but I liked it and I used to repeat it.

When you come up with a new idea or a new thing with a new group of people who don't know you, the first 50 times you say the thing we need to do together, they don't even hear you. It doesn't even register. The second 50 times, they don't understand you. I heard you, but what? The third 50 times, they don't believe you. At 151, they'll go, “Is that what you meant?” Sometimes our spouses do that, so this isn't just at work. However many times it is, it's a lot on that 151st time. I have a memento from an old job that they put on a fake magazine cover 151 times. On 151st time, they go, “That's what you meant.”

When people start owning it for them, I say no. What do I know about cyber? I know about policy, people working together, strategic opportunities, operational requirements, and how to think operationally. That's why I endured in service so long. There wasn't a path for women and women weren't allowed in fighters or bombers when I went to pilot training.

We did heavies, but when I got out of that tribe, other tribes realized I had something to offer to their tribe. It was communication and consistency. I did my homework. They'd say, “Johnson, it's a good thing you were right.” Sometimes, you are the voice in the wilderness and you have to double-check and have someone.

The last thing I’ll say is it's great to have an ally, companion, a mentor, maybe someone not exactly in your chain of command, but it's a sanity check to say, “I know in the voice in the wilderness. I genuinely don't want to be crazy. It sounds crazy to people when it's new.” I do have another anecdote about that from the NBA. What do you think? Give me a sanity check.

My late sister worked as a manager in a big insurance company. She was my voice of reason on management types of things. My husband loves me too much to be a great critic of speeches but in terms of practical operational matters, he's a crudogue as we used to say. He's a very pragmatic electrical engineer dude who graduated from VMI, so he could give me the straight scoop, but sometimes I needed somebody else from the world that I was in to say sanity check.

You're not alone. Leadership is a team sport. Even though you feel alone, you're not alone because the whole point of leadership is being with other people. The last thing I’ll mention from the NBA is brilliant. A chief of NBA referee operations is still there, Monty McCutchen. He used to be my partner. I tried to codify what he knew in process, resources, and training, but he's wise. One time he said to me, “Michelle did this brilliant thing.” I said, “What brilliant thing?”

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Cadet Wing Commander: Leadership is a team sport. Even though you feel alone, you're not alone because the whole point of leadership is being with other people.

He said, “To bring when the referees rotate through New York, Brooklyn, and New Jersey during the season, have a small group in-season training sessions and go over video and talk about the position as they do.” I said, “Monty, what's brilliant about that? That's practical training. That's continuing training from the intense stuff you do in the summer to do it throughout the season.” He said, “It's brilliant to me because I never would have thought of that.”

That's from a different world. That brought it from being a pilot in the Air Force. No matter what field you're in, the Air Force or any service or trade, you have resources and you’re committed to training. You have criteria and standards for performance and you evaluate people on that. That's easy. It's not easy for other people who don't know. It was a new idea to him. I wasn't alone, but for a while, I was lonely because I had to say that 151 times.

There's this duality of it and they're going to be times and sometimes you need to get alone because you're getting prepped or purified or we did something or we need to own it. It's not a bad thing. I’ve heard people say, “You’re only lonely because you did something wrong.” There are reasons for everything. You can be accused of something.

There are all bad things that happen to good people to put you in a lonely place, but I love that you talked about having somebody outside of your chain of command to be an ally or a voice of reason to sit there. That's so important because otherwise, we're too much in the same arena. We can often get what we need to hear and people tell us what they think or see it through the same ones we do. I love that you brought that aspect up.

Even at the Academy, it's an institution of higher education. It's a commissioning source. It's in a beautiful place. It's a good gig to be in Colorado Springs at 7,000 feet altitude, on the side of the mountains on the front range, and be with all these wonderful young people from across the world and our country. Obviously, we have cadets from 70 countries across the world that come through. Even that place could become inward-looking and I would say, “See ourselves as others see us.”

You may do something and it's motivated by every pure thought, but externally, it's perceived differently because they don't have the context. They haven't lived in that group. That's sometimes the fresh eyes. The fresh eyes can be lonely eyes, but you need them, as you said, to go off and reflect. Think about how we get here, what we are trying to do, and how we get there together.

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Cadet Wing Commander: The fresh eyes can be lonely eyes, but you need them to go off and reflect. Think about how we get here, what we are trying to do, and how we get there together.

We calibrate and reorient how we're going to make the end goals. You talked about having to support your family. It’s the next topic and again, he talked about weariness. I love that you talked about you had the great thing. People always say that when you have two alphas married, how do you guys do it? Do you kill each other? I’m like, “No. Two alphas means double the resources, double the tenacity, we're not quitting, and we're not giving up.” It's almost this complementary thing.

I love to combat the work-life balance because here you are pinning on your store and you have little ones at home. Every woman out there, heck every man out there, has to deal with juggling fortune, family, and growing that. You had that to help you be strong and safe, especially you had to stay rested to fly, rested to command, and make decisions when you're going to hostile or the fog and friction war. How do you combat weariness, Michelle?

Sometimes, it isn't possible to do it on your own. One of these things is when I was a squadron commander and my husband was in Okinawa for three years. It was our longest separation. We only had cats then, so we’re waiting for kids. We were older parents. We didn't live together very often initially. I remember it was coming up on Christmas.

Our flight sergeant for our Squadron and first sergeant was hovering around my office. I worked long hours and it was KC-10 Squadron. I fly all the time and it was only about 250 people. People take time. If you listen to them, care about them, do the documentation, and everything, it takes a lot of time. I know this one evening as Christmas was approaching, these two guys, the flight surgeon, and the first sergeant, were in my office talking with me and it hit me.

I looked at them and I said, “You're taking care of me, aren't you right now? Your first sergeanting me. You're checking on me.” They said, “Yes, ma'am.” In terms of letting go, let people help you. It's so hard to ask for help to even know you need help. At a student level for cadets, they get themselves in a hole and grades. All they needed to do was raise their hand and ask for help.

Everybody wants you to succeed there. If you're in an organization, unless you're a hateful, loathsome human being, which hopefully none of us are, people want you and the organization to succeed. If you've been giving to everybody else, they want to help you and you need to let them. That's super hard, but that was a real blessing to have people like that around me.

Did I always take their advice? No. I was probably horrible about that, but you do need to take care of yourself. I don't have musical talents, but some people do. That feels like their tank of joy. Don't forget to find your joy. If the boys were running around, John would leave. I was a brigadier general at the Pentagon and we lived near the Pentagon, so I could walk over and at least be home to maybe see him at bath time and go to bedtime and stuff.

He'd say, “Look at the wall.” It’s the big crayon drawing all over the wall that we would have to repaint, but he said, “I left it for you because I knew you'd get a kick out of it,” or the big pile of chairs and pillows and stuff in the living room because that was there for filled my tank and that was terrific. Even that said, it has driven type A as I am and you take different roles at home. I was playing a type B at home. He both can at the same time, but he was a leader at home and obviously at work in different settings and back and forth.

I read Viktor Frankl’s book and when I’m having a bad day, I’ll think, “He survived the Holocaust and he lost his whole family. He was a psychologist and he chose to stay with his family when he could have gotten out.” His writings were helpful about the meaning of life. You’re doing something you love with people you love. When you’re faced with adversity or have the attitude to face adversity in a way, that’s an achievement. Getting yourself out of a predicament is an achievement and it doesn’t come across as a Rhodes scholarship, a medal, a lot of money, fame, or anything.

When you're faced with adversity or have the attitude to face adversity in a way, that's an achievement.

If you have the grit to overcome the challenge, that’s empowering. Even my friend Monty, the head of referees at the NBA, is a philosopher and ref. He’s not published it, but he’s got a manuscript. He was written about sports. People do sports because they want to be challenged against the standard. It’s like, “Let me see how good am I at this. I want to know. I’m going to do my best and then if I’m not the best, dog on it. I’m not, but I’m going to give it my shot.” Sometimes, some aspects of public service are like that. Flying a plane is hard. You don’t pop out of high school and know how to fly a jet, manage a mission and every fuel, do the kinds of things we did, or be a Thunderbird like Nicole Malachowski.

I think a lot of people want to be challenged and say, “How good would I be? Fair and square, but I gave it my best shot. That’s how well I could do it.” Attitude is helpful and it doesn’t matter if you’re short or tall or they’re small. I’ll bring back the loneliness a little bit. People see me show up and flying Squadron, saying, “I don’t know anybody like you. My mother is not like you. My sister is not like you. How can you possibly be doing this thing?”

If your attitude is we want to do this thing and everybody helps, then you can get over that pretty fast. I’ll leave the last thing. Kansas is the home state of the McConnell Air Force Base, where I was a wing commander when I had the boys. I was up all night anyway. There's no sleeping for me as a wing commander. It is between the calls from the command post and the boys.

That's how it was, but on a cold winter night in Kansas when it was zero temperatures and high winds, we're trying to launch a bunch of planes, like twenty planes. Everyone on the flight line wore Gore-Tex gloves. We had no idea who anybody was because we were blobs of waterproof material, pushing pallets and trying to refuel things. When everything was said and done and the planes were all launched, I went around, as the commander does, to talk with people, thank them, and check on them, having no idea what they looked like.

As they pulled off their balaclavas, hoods, and everything, you could start to see their ranks, faces, ethnicity, men and women, tall and short, everything, and I was so moved. I was moved daily, but I was moved in moments like that to say, “Isn't it wonderful that we were who we were? We went out and did what we had to do and we value each other.” To me, that's exciting. That fills my tank. I tell people now I’m a mom. You should get your sleep. Make sure you eat right. Take care of your joints and stuff like that. There's this other feeling that's inspiring and hopefully, you can foster that in others.

You said, “Fill the tank,” and you're right. There was nothing like the military as far as we were all in it together and none of it mattered. As you said, it’s not the rank or anything all bundled up or you're in Kenmore Fair. You can't even tell, but we were the collective. It’s a diverse group but the ultimate unified mission. Michelle, you brought up probably one of my top five books, Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl. If you want to learn about resiliency and adaptive capacity, I tell people who are complaining, read that book and then you come back and talk to me. They never come back and complain. It’s so profound.

That's a heavy, dark topic. If you read it, it's full of joy. It’s not to trivialize anything.

He didn't trivialize it, but that's profound. You covered abandonment and I love that. Primarily, as you're climbing up, you got to let go of the ego. You got to be okay with abandoning some of these things that may have worked for you as an individual contributor or a commander at a flight level where you had a smaller group. Remember, it’s less and less of the outcome.

The only outcome of you as a commander is what the individual troops do. You have to start managing the troops versus managing the processes, the sorties, the non-mission capable rates, or all that other stuff. Is there anything else on abandonment you want to talk about? I thought that was so rich to share with our audience.

It was a one-on-one level when I was a co-pilot in C-141. I was a little older than other co-pilots. I was a little more senior. I was the first lieutenant. Now I’m a second lieutenant because I’ve gone to graduate school at Oxford and then was fine. We had Lieutenant Colonels who've flown in Vietnam. He’s a gruff guy. Some who had flown the plane so long, even though we were supposed to be dutiful students of the tech orders, they'd quit reading the tech orders because they knew how to fly it and the co-pilots would do the knob work for them.

There's this one gruff lieutenant colonel. He's a wonderful person. We respect the heck out of him, but he scared all the co-pilots. My husband had flown with him too. He said to me once, “Johnson, I make the co-pilots cry and that's the guys, but I don't mess with you.” I didn't know what that meant exactly. One time, he and I were on a check ride. The flight examiner was sitting right behind the console, watching everything we did.

For our audience, a check ride is an evaluation ride. She's getting graded on proficiency.

Also, how we ran the checklist and how we ran the mission. He and I were on it. It’s an evaluation like you're driving in high school, but times 1,000. I noticed that in the left seats where the aircraft commander sits, his navigation select panel wasn't right with the checklist. Safety first, but also contending with culture. You don't touch each other switches as a cultural thing about reaching across somebody, especially somebody imposing like him. I reached my hand over in front of the switch that needed to be corrected and said, “I’ll set your knob select panel up for the takeoff check,” then I waited.

I didn't touch it, but I waited. I wanted to show respect. I didn't know what he'd do and he said, “Thanks, Co.” I hit the button, we did the flight, and everything went on. I’ve actually said that at a commencement speech at Niagara University a couple of years ago, “I know it seems weird to say something like that. Thanks, Co. So what?” What he did was courageous in a way. He let me help him. It not only helped us do the mission safely and get to see the check right and everything, but it also modeled for me to let go.

Later, when I was on missions and was tired in the middle of the night in Bahrain or someplace, I did the before-takeoff checklist. I say to the crew, “We've all been awake for 36 hours now, so we need to help each other. If you see something, you speak up because we're all tired and we've got to get this right. If you help me succeed, I’ll help you succeed.” I said that attitude. Part of what helped me do that. It’s letting go of my ego or letting go of the fear of although things she's weak.

Michelle, you were telling the story about when you got with your check pilot and you had the courage to let him know, “I’m going to touch the switches,” and then you were referring to some things that happen when people don't feel in other cultures that they are free to express what's going on.

Sometimes, it's grouped dynamics, leadership, and culture. We used to talk about crew resource management because, on a big airplane, you have teams of 4 to 20 people. The C-5 fighter crews are big and 141. We had to have at least four people, but when you're working in a work environment, being able to collaborate means listening to each other and letting go of your own protectiveness or personal power. It's important in a plane. Someone is going to get hurt if the chief pilot, the aircraft Commander, or the pilot in charge doesn't listen or take input. As I’ve said, there have been accidents and some came from national cultures of hierarchy.

Being able to collaborate means listening to each other and letting go of your own protectiveness or personal power.

The leading person is like, “I’m the boss. I don't have to listen to you.” It's literally dangerous, but even if it's not in an airplane, in general, you're not hearing the totality of what’s going on. You're not being informed if you're not listening and taking input from people around you. Ultimately, a leader has to decide and may not follow exactly what those inputs are. That's part of the aloneness. Someone’s got to decide, but listening empowers a team to know that they'll be heard. You may not agree, but they'll be heard and it's an important lesson.

You hit on the importance of being courageous enough to manage up. A lot of times, here you are managing down or managing lateral but to help your boss or your leader to become the best that they can. As you said, unless it's illegal, immoral, unethical, or unsafe, you are being heard. For the leaders out there, you have to be courageous enough to make the call and say, “I know, but we need to look at this.” The last thing my dad talked about was vision.

We hear about these visionaries. Michelle, we have our heroes in the military who were sheer, brilliant tacticians, motivators, and all the greats. My dad would always tell me, “Vision is seeing what needs to be done and then doing it.” It’s this blue-sky thing but also this very tactical strategic thing. How do you hone your vision, especially now that you're in the next stage of your life? I know the military would often feed you your vision, but how do you inspire that in other people?

It's an important notion. You don't have to be a genius philosopher to have a vision. It's what needs to be done, as you said. Maybe even asking the question of, “We're doing this thing. So what?” What's going to happen on the other side of this? Some of it is strategic planning. What are the opportunities and what are the risks? That is not a military function. It's a business function, I would think. Even the American College of Financial Services Board talked to us about financial risk, what are the risks with personnel, and what's going to happen next. To my point, we caught it with the head of referees for the NBA when I suggested in-season training, not just in the summer. That seemed brilliant and visionary to him.

It seemed obvious to me. If I thought of that, what do we miss that someone else might think of it? To your point of managing up, as a senior officer or a general officer, I wasn't always the most senior. I was a 2 or 3-star, but there are always four stars and civilian leaders. To be brave enough to challenge the status quo or tell them the truth or the bad news sometimes is eye-opening. Do it privately and give them some grace, a way out, or a graceful exit. We can fix it if you make this phone call or this is what needs to be done, but to see ahead and assess, that's part of a vision as well. It has to do with listening and learning. In this day and age, people don't always want hard-copy books. My husband and I are still of a generation that values the tactile feel of a book.

I’m aggressive with books. I deface them out of love. I write in them and I tear their pages, but I’m willing to learn. To my earlier point about how we get here as an organization or as a group and what we need to do next, the best part of a vision is a narrative. What's our story? Maybe that's a more palatable way for us to think about what's our narrative. For me, a lot of veterans and other people are at a point in life where you have more discretion about your time. What brings meaning? Not as profound as Viktor Frankl with that sense of that meaning, but in the sense of what do I know that might help another group, whether it's with corporate memory or another perspective as a board member now.

Board members are not supposed to partake in the everyday operations of an enterprise, but I always think, “Have I asked a challenging question? Have I thought of another angle that they might not have thought of?” You're on the advisory board for the Veteran Center, so you may think of that as well. It’s like, “If I asked a good question that they might not have thought of or another angle and to be supportive in a way that's constructive.” It isn't always positive cheerleading. It's sometimes saying, “There may be some pitfalls on that one. You might want to consider what could happen from practical experience and also from studying.”

You brought that up earlier. We always have something to offer, no matter if it’s taking off the uniform but the way we think. What I like about people in the military is we always are a worst-case scenario. We're always contingency planners and we're also after-actions people. That's the other thing where you talked about we train it in-season and out of season and that's not intuitively obvious. It's interesting that you said that because I can remember sitting on some boards, when something would go wrong, not military things, they're like, “What's next?”

I’m like, “What happened here? After the access report, no behaviors change until a lesson has been learned,” and we tweak something. I love that you said that in a constructive way. That's the point of leadership. Not an echo chamber but to ask the tough questions or the great critical thinking skills because we have seen a lot and blended a lot about what could possibly go right. You can't go into war thing and everything is going to go right. You think everything is going to go wrong and reverse engineer from that.

Tell that story. It is what it is and don't be afraid. Too many people use the word fear and I’m afraid. I was always thankful. I didn't have to worry in the main about our boys going to the shopping center and being bombed. We live in a violent world and things can happen randomly but we live in a pretty safe environment.

We don't have the day-to-day risk like a lot of people have or the food insecurity that a lot of people have and those things so I count my blessings. What are we afraid of? What do we have to be afraid of to say it is what it is and try to persuade people? That's the other thing. With vision, you want to do that thing that you see something that is different. I go back to what I said before.

They may not even hear you when you say, “I disagree with that.” They may not hear you literally the first couple of times. I really think this is a thing and try to be persuasive that way. After working at the White House for two years, I carried the nuclear codes for President Bush and President Clinton. If you do a lot of advance work, you have to plan ahead.

Here's what will happen in the worst case that maintains connectivity with the Commander in Chief in the command authority. You had to think of every possible contingency: medical, communication, physical, other 25th amendment, and nuclear things. Mostly, bad things didn't happen, but in order to get senior civilians to do what I needed to do, I had to persuade them.

I had no power over them. I was a major, but you have to persuade people to get things done. People have written about political powers. It’s a power of persuasion. You're moving people. I did that to the extent that when I went back to Travis Air Force Base after that assignment, one of the sergeants said, “You could tell us what to do. You don't have to persuade.” I said, “Okay. Point well taken.” I'll tell you on those few transactional things, but it’s inspiring things and trying to do new things for an enterprise to have a vision of what happens next. You need to say why and what will be in it for you. What will your role be in it?

The vision isn't, “We're going to get to that mountain,” it's, “How are you going to help us get to the mountain? How am I going to help you get to the mountain? How are we going to do that together?” We are obviously great communicators, but that's not a value thing in military service. If you look at Myers-Briggs personalities, I’m an ENTJ, so I think I can do the math. I was an Operations Research undergrad. It's like an Engineering minor at the Service Academy. Both of us were, but I tend to be an extrovert who thinks intuitively, which isn't softer. It's in macro and I’m a thinker and dredger. We can go do that, but not everybody can see it if they're a linear thinker or more sensory or an engineer. They want to know what happens and what step is next.

Understanding myself and how I’m thinking, I’m open that way and engineer like my husband. He is a linear engineer. There are times we bump. There are many reasons why spouses bump. One of the reasons we do is that we're wired differently. It's very complementary and it's great overall. When you're working with people who are literal, this idea of a vision might seem a little too open-ended and you need to help them understand what happens next, what's in it for them, and what our role is together. They may not automatically see their role in the group and laying it out in a narrative again is helpful.

I love that you described the vision as persuasion and moving people because otherwise, it's your thing. Vision is shared with them. You hit on all the books I’ve read. Say the number one question anybody has on their mind is What’s In It For Me? Why too? We have to set the why, but in the how, as far as practical, the management, or the 30,000, what's in it for me? I get the why, but that’s the reason why expectation is a success. I have to see value in it, which means, what's in it for me? I love that you talked about it. Some people are like, “You don't have to woo-woo me.” I put my task hat on as you do and go, “Here are the orders.” “Okay, fine.”

I literally did that in the Squadron because they thought I was too nice sometimes. I had a black hat. I would put a black build cap on. I don't smoke, but I had a cigar and I get out and say, “This is me being directive,” and we'd laugh about it. That was also part of building the collegiality of what we're doing. I haven’t read Daniel Pink's works, but he has a book called Drive, which is the most realistic about not what's in it for me but calling it as it is about understanding the politics of a dynamic. Politics are human beings together.

It's not like political parties. It's Aristotle. We're political animals because we live with other people. Understanding who the informal leaders are, who the formal leaders are, and how to navigate that is part of persuasion, leading, and pursuing a vision because those can be helpers, so they can be obstacles. The informal leaders may have more power than the formal leaders, weirdly. You can harness into that but you can't pretend it doesn't exist. It's only your own idea. Again, this is a team sport.

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Cadet Wing Commander: Understanding who the informal leaders are, who the formal leaders are, and how to navigate that is part of persuasion, leading, and pursuing a vision.

You hit the nail on the head when you talk about politicking well. For those of you who are tuning in and want to get your CLF, we have a whole class on one of our modules about networking and managing in politicking well. As you said, anybody that has survived in one of the biggest bureaucracies of all time, I eat the military as long as you have, you're a great politicker. We have this politics and it's sucking up. It's kissing butt. It's hard as it is. It's networking. It's coming together because there's a certain amount of resources and it's a win-win, so we have this negative notation. I love that you could not have done what you did without getting fed up.

There are a million other pasts you could have taken, Michelle, but you stayed on the one because you knew how to be politicking well and not in a derogatory, sell-your-soul, or cronyism-type sense. I’m glad you brought that up because we may have some audience out there that are like, “I don't know. Should I stay or should I go?” I always tell them, “Do you want to fall into your sword or do you need to open up your mind and spirit about politicking well?”

We're all in this together and we have to find a way forward together. Is this a nuisance or an idiosyncrasy or is this a point of order that is against your conviction? Most of the time, it's something that annoys us. I’m like, “Do you want to throw it all away for that or do you want to learn to politic well?”

To your point, you're going to have, in a career, a good boss, bad bosses, good teams, or bad teams. The moments when it's clicking when you're on that championship team and it feels right, those don't last forever because somebody leaves or something changes, but those are great moments. One of the reasons I endured this eclectic journey was that I could see the patterns. It was eclectic enough that you start seeing the patterns across organizations. That's why people write all those management leadership books because human beings and organizations act about the same.

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Cadet Wing Commander: That's why people write all those management leadership books because human beings and organizations act about the same.

It's different language, uniforms, and hierarchies in a way, but politicking to me was saying if we need to bring some people together or say the Pentagon with different entities with different equities to defend, try to understand the equities of the others at the table. Plan ahead. Not only have allies at the table but try to think 2 or 3 steps out.

This literally happened to me. There was a senior civilian who had been military and there's some baggage with that. It was a real obstacle working when I was on the joint staff at the Pentagon on cyber policy and I set up to him and said, “This is the equity I need to represent right now respectfully because this is the truth. I have to hold that.” I immediately went back. I was a one-star general and I talked to my three-star general.

I said, “You may get a phone call from somebody because I had to stand up to them and they are far senior to me.” He goes, “He already called me. You were doing the right thing. You were doing what you had to do.” That's one thing, but to have a successful policy, a lot of times, I would try to anticipate that when this person wants to work against me, they're going to go to the next level.

If I’ve already greased the works to the next level by informing them, not paying them off or nothing underhanded but saying, “This is part of the story for you to know. When the other person came with their side, I’d wind up getting support, usually because I did my homework. I was prepared and pretty factually correct and be able to move forward.”

It became winning and it worked in NATO across 28 allies then. Now we're up to 31 in NATO, but at that time, it was 28 plus 22 partner Nations for Afghanistan. There are 50 nations around. It’s understanding the organization around you and not your own narrow slice of it. Where do I fit in? People do social mapping for other reasons to think who would be on board, who would be antis in this initiative, and understand that. Who are you going to have to persuade to come forward? Who are you going to have to come on board? Not in an underhanded way, but with persuasion, facts and research, and persistence. I will say persistence helps.

That’s why you pay the price of leadership because everybody would be doing it if it was easy. Coming across against these naysayers, your example is managing up well and politicking well. It’s excellent. Thank you for sharing that. I was hoping you get into that and you said why you endured. I love it because everybody has their own reasons for it. That’s fascinating, Michelle. We did loneliness, weariness, abandonment, and vision. While I got you on the line, is there anything else, from a leadership perspective, that you would like to share with our audience about how to triumphantly and tenaciously pay the price of leadership?

I’ll share a vignette. I’m not sure exactly who it’s attributed to. I’m told Iyanla Vanzant has said it and other people, but it’s something that I’ve used in remarks. Also, it’s a reminder for me. Its rich alludes to fear. The saying is, “When we come to the end of all the light that we know and are about to step off into the darkness, faith is knowing that 1 of 2 things is going to happen. They’ll either be something solid in the darkness for us to stand on or we’ll learn how to fly.”

To me, this is like not being afraid to explore something different. It’s 1977 and 18-year-old me left Spencer, Iowa, to want to see what the big world was like. I have no clue, no videos on a website, no internet, no family experience in the military or with higher ed, except for my brother, who went to medical school, but he's far older than me.

It was a different time when all the money we had, which wasn't much, went for him, and my sister and I were on our own to try it, go out, step into the darkness, and go, “Solid. It’s not as scary as I thought it was going to be.” I need to learn something new to survive in this way and try something new. It may be more fulfilling.

In my case, it was in the big world. There were lows. They don't write that in your bio. Nobody writes in your bio the rough days and the things when you met with someone who was a curmudgeon or worse, who tried to undermine you or things didn't go well. They don't write that down in your bio. It's part of the journey and makes you appreciate when things click, when you do move a policy through, or when you can communicate with somebody.

I almost said it in SACEUR, the Supreme Allied Commander Forces Europe, when I was at NATO. He promised the Russians, who had a bigger contingent in Brussels, that NATO did because they were very suspicious of NATO because NATO was formed to defend against them. He wanted to keep them informed during the conflict in Afghanistan because of their fear of opium, the drug trade, and terrorism coming over the border. Meanwhile, they gave us over-flight and train track access or railroad access from the Baltics all the way to Kazakhstan over Russian airspace and ground space.

We wanted to communicate with them and he sent me to Moscow one summer with a team with the German Lieutenant Colonel, a British Colonel, and a US colonel. A Norwegian Admiral was in Moscow to brief the device director, the vice chairman of their general staff, and their four-star. They were going to have me talk to a two-star, but when I showed up, the four-star showed up, so I had to adapt. Over a long briefing table, standing over a map and a long lunch, we went and did our work and went back. To me, that was a capstone professional experience to represent the equities of my nation in the halls of the Kremlin.

They’ve been our foe in so many ways and so many episodes and to know my business enough to be able to come through and to keep my team together. It was a very emotional experience for the German officer. Can you imagine in paintings in the Kremlin of General Zuckoff, who's the Russian General Montgomery from Britain and Eisenhower from the US? Obviously, Germany was the enemy then and my German colleague felt it. It was a lonely, moving time for him. That was a real capstone experience. In the life journey, you pick up along the way.

I didn't know this when I was a lieutenant. I don't know if I could have done it when I was a lieutenant, but you learn along the way. To be willing to step into the darkness with faith or confidence or whatever your belief system is that supports you. To be able to go out alone in the dark with people who may never want to be leaders. Not everybody wants to and that's okay too, but we need to be good teammates because we're going and we need you to come with us.  

Not everybody wants to be a four-star general. Some people want to launch and recover and be a crew dog or whatever, but I love that. Michelle, you have certainly paid the price of leadership and continue to do so. Thank you for sharing all this wisdom. I can't wait to listen. If I have no scribbled everywhere, I have to get it organized. Michelle, if people want to connect with you or learn more about you, what's the best way that they can reach out to you?

I have a very small footprint on LinkedIn. I’m there, but I’m at the point in life where if you Google Lieutenant General Michelle Johnson, you could see my official Air Force bio in there. People have found speeches have done. I talked at the National Press Club when I was superintendent. I’ve had some hard interviews. I’ve had some fun ones where you can tell all the good news. I’ve had a tough one too. I exist out there. There are a lot of Michelle Johnson, but not as many Lieutenant Michelle Johnson.

Michelle Johnson sends her farewell. Please be sure and check out Lieutenant General Retired Michelle Johnson, a Trailblazer. I hope you enjoyed everything she shared with you about what it takes to paying the price of leadership. Remember, you will be the same person in the future that you are now, except for two things. The people you meet and the books you read. I hope you heard us talk about a lot of tremendous books.

You met a tremendous person and I want to thank you for paying the price of leadership. If you like what you read, please hit the subscribe button, leave us the honor of a five-star review, and share with your friends who are trying to live a triumphantly tremendous life as well. Thanks so much to all of you for paying the price of leadership. Have a tremendous rest of your day.

 

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Lt. Gen. (Ret.) Michelle Johnson class of ‘81 USAFA was the first female cadet to be named Cadet Wing commander and later became the first female officer to serve as Air Force Academy superintendent (#19).

She was also inducted into the inaugural class of the Air Force Academy Athletic Hall of Fame and a Rhodes Scholar. While in uniform she served as the AF Aide to the President, an Air Force Squadron, Group & Wing Commander; NATO/SHAPE Deputy Chief of Staff Intel & Operations; NBA Senior VP head of Referee Operations. Her husband is John Hargreaves, a retired USAF pilot; happy parents of 20-year-old twin sons.

Episode 176 - Dr. Lee Hardin - Leaders on Leadership


Leadership is a journey of shared vision. In this episode, we dig deeper into the community value of leadership with our exceptional guest, Lee Hardin. Drawing from his extensive military experience, Lee shares his leadership's core principles, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and the art of balancing vision with practicality. He discusses the challenges of leadership, touching on the feelings of loneliness and weariness that leaders often encounter. But more than that, Lee explores the concept of "shared vision" and how it's a linchpin in achieving success. He discusses the significance of collective goals and the power of a team viewing objectives through the same lens. It's a reminder that, in leadership, the synergy of shared vision keeps teams united and motivated. Tune in and discover how to lead with a purpose, build a shared vision, and balance your strengths to make a positive impact.

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In this episode, I'm very excited to introduce you to my guest, Dr. Lee Hardin. Welcome, Lee.

Thank you so much for having me on. I greatly appreciate it.

You're welcome. Let me tell you a little bit about Dr. Lee Hardin. He holds a PhD in Educational Psychology from Temple. He has a Master's in Instructional Technology from Bloomsburg. He is an active Army duty officer with many years of service in the Pennsylvania Army National Guard. He was an Iraqi veteran from 2005 to 2006 at Al-Ramadi, Iraq.

Lee is also an adjunct professor in the College of Education and Human Development at Temple Research Interests in Executive Function/Self-Regulation Gamification and Instructional Design. Most of all, he is the father of three boys and has been happily married for many years. Lee, we're delighted to have you.

I should hire you for all my introductions. Thank you so much. That was so nice.

You're welcome. I'm excited for our readers out here. I always like to tell you how Lee and I connected. Lee reached out to me on LinkedIn. You saw somebody American College of Veteran Services. You said hey as a PhD and vet. We connected. I'm excited we did connect. After hearing about your educational background and your love of continuous learning and our country, I said, “I got to have you on this show.” Thank you for saying yes to my request.

Thank you so much for the great resources, especially since we're locals in Carlisle. There's a lot of military history, heritage, and connections that I made with the communities. The community is large. I'm thankful that's happened to it. It's great to meet you.

Thank you. You served under one of our previous guests, Major General John Gronski.

I could speak accolades upon accolades about that man. He's a wonderful person and has been very influential in my career, for my father as well who served with him. I was amazed that once we started connecting, I saw he was on your show. I go to the episode. It was great. He's written two books. I've had many interactions with him over the years and I'll share these stories here. He's great.

We got so much positive feedback on that as I'm sure we'll get on yours. Readers, this is Lee's very first guesting.

I’m starting at the top.

We're going to be talking about leadership. One of my father Charlie “Tremendous” Jones’ speeches was called The Price Of Leadership. After growing an insurance industry and growing his consulting company, he said, “For you to be in leadership, you're going to have to pay the price so you're not a LINO or Leader In Name Only.”

The first price of leadership is loneliness. We've all heard that's why a lot of people don't want to go to leadership because they still want to have friends and family over for dinner like I was in a family business. Can you talk to us about what loneliness means to you as a leader and maybe share a time when you went through a season of loneliness?

After reading some of the tenets that your father brought up, that's probably one of the biggest ones that hit me. Every organization and industry is different. Some places have a hierarchy that you start at maybe at the bottom or entry level and you work your way up. It hinted toward there when you explained it. You make a lot of friends along the way. It gets very difficult when you become in those supervisory, managerial, director, or executive level positions. It's hard to cut ties but you still also want to keep that interpersonal connection you made with people.

The military is a very small community. You're always around people you always meet. In the education academic field, it's very much the same. The big thing that I encountered was that we all have our passions. There are certain things that we like. Sometimes you join an organization where the culture is a little bit different. There may be something that you coming in as a leader.

There are predecessors prior to you who set certain standards and tones good or bad. It may work or may not. Making that assessment and trying to figure out, “Now that I'm the new person in here, how to give my flavor and my vision as well while also ensuring that people are still productive, happy to be there, and also buying into what I'm trying to get them all on board with?”

The big thing for me was that I had a Master’s in Instructional Technology. One thing that I was more tech-forward than a lot of people, for example, was when I first joined Temple many years ago. My role was in charge of teaching all the teachers. I was running faculty workshops to improve them and their abilities to lead various online courses and asynchronous courses. PhD people are wonderful. They are incredibly knowledgeable and smart. They know their research interests very well but not a lot of them can utilize technology. They can't convey communication very well. They may know a lot of things but maybe communicating and being a good teacher is sometimes a challenge.

They take these workshops or self-development which is wonderful and outleading in spearheading a lot of the HR initiatives for these technology workshops. The one thing that I thought was interesting, and this is maybe for some of the younger/older readers, is if you've ever been to a conference where a speaker how to PowerPoint, they ask you to pull out your phone and maybe buzz on in with a certain answer to a question or something like that, it’s like polling the audience, giving feedback, and also getting people engaged.

The technology at the time when I first joined Temple was making students with these remote control devices or clickers from the bookstore. It costs a lot of money. There were a lot of problems with it. I'm like, “Kids have smartphones. This is not a new technology. It is something that a lot of other places and corporations use. We should be embracing a lot of the new changes and getting rid of some of this old stuff because there are so many problems.”

The big driver of that was noticing how many complaints were coming from students. How many calls were going into the tech center? Their clickers don't work, “I lost my clicker.” Faculty were upset with it because they weren't getting accurate results and data. Sometimes when you're lonely with a passion like, “This is a technology we probably should be going in,” it's hard when there are people who may not understand it. They may be also afraid to invest in it. They may be afraid to spend money on it and learn something new.

As adults with adult learning theories here, we are resistant to change. It's trying to get people invested in buying in. Sometimes, I feel the biggest challenge that I have with the loneliest factor, a lot of things, is that we come from different organizations. You're being hired for a reason because you have expertise, how can you also get people at least maybe not passionate about it? They can understand that this is a benefit. That is the biggest thing that sometimes has trickle effects on everybody else.

That's valuable because you are an outsider and you were hired for something. As an early adapter, you may be the only one that sees it. What would you recommend out there? Is there a certain time frame? You always have some naysayers and that's fine. We know that but what would you recommend people when they're in that phase? That is a little unsettling. You're brought in and you see it but you don't know who else is going to see it.

If there are reasons why change needs to occur, maybe the company is here and there is a new direction and end goal in sight that we need to be at this level maybe because the current operation is not meeting quotas or certain standards, a solution and intervention has to be brought in there. Assessing the culture and knowing, “Are the people unhappy? How the previous administration or certain things were going on? Was there some negativity? Are they stuck in their ways for a certain reason?”

Trying to pull and get as much data information is key. Understanding where people are, bringing them into the room, having candid conversations, getting opinions, and then trying to pivot a little bit to show that, “This is what you have but here is a benefit that we probably need.” You would agree in trying to get them with that type of terminology and language. Can they understand that there's a benefit here that maybe would reduce the amount of work you're doing, maybe improve communications in a way, or there would maybe a faster process of getting from this step to this step if we do this new way?

It could fail but also understanding and explaining risk to. Making it sound like it's going to benefit them and make their life or the process a little bit easier. Sometimes people in certain situations, depending on how long they've been there or whatever their role may be are looking in there. There are small bubbles and how it affects them or their team. They are good manager and leaders. They're all looking out for their people below as well like, “Is this creating more work? Is this going to hinder my progress?” Trying to bridge those gaps and find the best solution sometimes is the way that I always sell. Let's look at the organizational and team benefits. Those are the two I always go with.

I love that you talked about getting the people on board, especially as an educator. I read this book. It came out in the ‘50s. I had to tell what you know and it was about how to teach foremen to teach managers. You used to go out behind the back at the shop and pummel each other. We don't do that anymore. They said, “People can only learn new knowledge when you put it on an overlay of something they already know.”

People can only learn new knowledge when you put it on an overlay of something.

To your point, when you are coming on with something new to them, you have to drop it down and build on something even if you have a PhD, 2 or 3. That's how we learn. I remember when people would tell me stuff, I was like, “It's flying over my head. I have nothing to link it to.” Knowledge can only be built on knowledge. You can't just input something new. It has to be traced back.

For educators and loneliness, it's a matter of people saying, “They don't get it. They don't like change.” That's never the case. We're all in the world. It's 2003. You may not be a fan of change but there's something else going on there. We're having trouble linking it to something in the real world or there's a trust issue, which doesn't mean we don't like change. It means we don't trust the person giving us that. I don't know if we talked about bringing that down, especially to very smart educators who get that knowledge that is always changing. They're not afraid of new knowledge. What we get paid to do is find new knowledge.

To add to your point, every industry is different with different readers out there. What is the demographic? What is the client? What is the customer? Especially when it comes to academia, they're young. 18 to 22-year-olds are a primary demographic there. They're used to using a lot of technology. That's common sense to them that you have educators who are very experienced, knowledgeable, and probably very good teachers.

Organizations change software all the time. They upgrade new systems, different types of websites, and computers. There are a lot of things that are obstacles to overcome. You can say that gets in the way of learning. That's the bureaucracy of every single industry you're dealing with, how to reach your client in addition to all the other tasks that support and supplement it. You can still reach them but it may not be the most effective way anymore in five years.

Shared Vision: That's the bureaucracy of every single kind of industry you're dealing with, how to reach your client in addition to all the other tasks that support and supplement it. You can still reach them, but it may not be the most effective way anymore.

Reaching is teaching. The more I stop consulting or trying to motivate people and teach, it's remarkable. Can we talk about all the great things from when social media first came out? Kids, you can laugh but this was a long time ago. On Twitter a few years ago, I was like, “I'm not doing this.” Somebody says, “Let me show you.” They set it up and I'm like, “That was easy.”

It’s like ChatGPT. I'm like, “What is this? This is dumbing people down. This is an abomination.” Somebody says, “Put something in there and type it.” I'm like, “Are you kidding me?” I was so reticent because I didn't know what I didn't know. They call it, “You are unconsciously unconscious.” People see, “This isn't that big of a threat and deal.” The benefits of it are remarkable.

I was feeling lonely for a while because I had so many people I needed to give me products. I was waiting for them. I'm like, “As a solopreneur, it's already lonely enough when you're waiting for people but this has allowed me to get ten times the work done and keep focusing on my interaction with people and not be in this lonely space of I can't move forward.” That's my ChatGPT plug right there.

A lot of people still have those reservations. Is it a perfect system? No. There are still a lot of things that need to be explored but it's managed responsibly. It responsibly embracing. We need to welcome something new but also be cautious about how it's being used. Some people are worried about, “This will replace a job here and there.” Not necessarily.

There are a lot of nuances in human experiences that come into a lot of the work that we do, especially when it comes to leadership, managing people, and resources. Can AI do that? Not necessarily. Maybe in the future, sure but I don't think that's something that we're going to have to necessarily deal with regulation and government oversight. Also, industry oversight. How can we choose how we want to use this? To your point, exploring is good. Being always cautious and asking questions of why and how is going to help frame your mindset moving forward.

Exploring is good, but being always cautious and asking questions why and how, that's going to help frame your mindset moving forward.

We talked about loneliness. How about weariness? My dad would always tell me, “If you're going to be out there leading, you're going to get some people that do way more than what's expected and a lot that don't.” You think everybody in the military is. People are everybody else. There are super soldiers and then there are people who are checking the clock until a retired on active duty would call, a road sergeant. How do you stay on top fighting from you're teaching, father, husband, creating content and you're serving in the military and deploying? How do you combat weariness?

Loneliness is number one. Weariness is right behind there. Burnout is inevitable no matter who you are. There are different types of burnout whether it is physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or whatever it may be that you're experiencing. Life throws things at us that are also additional obstacles that get in the way of us and our trajectory. It's a lot working to jobs. I'm very thankful for my family. My family is a bedrock.

I learned that I could not always do it by myself. When I was a young soldier, very hungry, and wanted to get out there and do everything, that was great. That was a good time in my life. As new responsibilities came forward, I had to also push aside the persona of being strong and tough, asking for help and not being afraid to do so. A lot of people are afraid to ask even their peers. Even asking your team if you have subordinates or other people out there. They want everyone to succeed. They don't want to have drama or trouble at work.

If there's a way that people can pitch in, great. With weariness, it's your responsibility to understand what helps you blow off some steam. I've always been active. I was a collegiate athlete. I swam in college. Though I miss the water, and I wish I could get in the water more often, I can't but with my kids teaching them to swim and things like that, it's great. Working out is probably so much the one thing that I'll always dedicate 30 minutes of my time to. I can do 30 minutes in various ways.

It's not like I'm working out like I used to when I was younger. A lot of time catches up with you. Flexibility and mobility are key. The one thing that I've learned in the last few years with all the new responsibilities that I've been dealing with is that the other thing that would make it more nagging and terrible is if I also have bad knees, bad back, or things that are hurting me. I'm also dealing with these mental issues and these things that are at work, and all these tasks I have to deal with. I have to add on an injury or something like that. That's not something that I ever want to go through ever again.

I've had some injuries before and it makes things a lot more complicated. I feel that even if it is yoga, stretching, or anything like that where that's getting you up and moving, it's a part of self-care and that's one thing that you can't make others do for you. It's not in other care. Self-care comes in many forms. Reading books is always great too for mental fatigue. Some people have a negative concept of maybe binge-watching a show. There are some times when you do need to turn off for a little bit and not be the director, president, or whatever your title may be.

Tap into some creative or imaginative aspects. For me and being a parent, my kids are getting to the age where we are being careful with video games and stuff like that. That gets a bad rap but I'm very passionate about that. There are a lot of puzzle processes and benefits of it. I see my kids light up when they're overcoming a challenge, working with them, and playing it together. You are creating memories and it's fun. Seeing their joy is residual. A smile is contagious. Those are the things that I tap into as much as I can. It is a little bit of time for me but a little bit of time for my family. It sets things all in the right way. That's for me.

I love the physical aspect of it. For those out there who have been in the military, we were taught early on. We were gym rats. Your physical conditioning was an integral part of it. For people that are in their mid-40s, people are like, “He's still in the prime.” We're all in our prime. I don't care if you go away from it for twenty years. Your body doesn't forget. There have been times when I have been away from working out for fifteen years. If I'm back in four weeks, I'm telling you, I am almost where I was before honestly.

You look at the people in their 70s, 80s, or 90s. We got people walking around. You got to finish the race strong and take care of the shell. You will live. There's no reason why we should all live to be 120 if we stay highway proportionate and stay away from the big lifestyle illnesses like stress, smoking, drinking, and bad eating. The body is the beautiful thing that God created. We have to watch out for that. Listen to yourself. I can't read your mind. I'm not God. You have to take care of yourself.

It's good to indulge in a nice dessert here. Be happy with it. It's never too late to start. There are going to be benefits that come from it even in 1 week or 2. Have some consistency. Get out of bed maybe a little bit faster and not feel back pain. Those are the things you're working for. It's longevity. It’s feeling good. That unlocks more potential and other opportunities to do other things as well. That's where I'm looking at my kids and seeing how active they are. I want to be active for them.

I want to get out there, play wall, and do all those good things. Get outside, enjoy the weather that we have, and see the beautiful fall colors and stuff. That's the stuff that I want to do. It's staying focused and making a routine regimen. Some people may see that as an extra burden but it’s not. It's a way to keep your home spirituality and mind free to move on to other tasks. That's the way I look at it.

Shared Vision: Staying focused and making a routine, a regimen. Some people may see that as an extra burden, it's not though. It's a way to also keep your home, spirituality, and your own mind free to move on to other tasks too.

The body is the temple. Respect and take care of it. The other thing is for everybody's aging, either you get year equipped to take care of yourself or you've got to have somebody take care of you. I'm strong. I thank God for my health. I take my health very seriously but I am here because I want to be able to take care of people. It's a selfless thing. It's not like, “Why should I do this?” Either you're going to be in a home or something.

Half of Americans have been on a medicine for X number of years. I'm not talking about genetic stuff. I'm talking about stuff that you should deal with and then get off. It's not a good habit. There are always repercussions and unintended consequences. Your body, if left to, is the right thing and a lot of natural things. We were in the military with our clearances. There are a lot of things I couldn't take and I'm thankful I couldn't take them. I had to figure out a way to solve anxiety or depression. I did. I came through it as a situational thing.

That goes back to the first point of being able to open up. If you can't do certain things, find resources because there's plenty out there. There are always alternative forms and things that can help you out. People have expertise in different areas and stuff. Leverage that stuff. That's 100%.

Thank you. We've talked about loneliness and weariness. The next topic my father talked about was abandonment. I saw your puppy earlier. For us abandonment has a negative connotation. You abandoned your dog or fear of abandonment. One of the fears is people stay in toxic relationships because they’re like, “Bad is better than nothing.”

He said, “Abandonment is to stop thinking about what you like and want to think about in favor of what you ought and need to think about.” It's abandoning the things that are not the highest and best use of your calling, whether it be a sideline, a habit, or a friend. He's talking about pruning and getting very focused on the battle plan of what's next. Can you talk to us about that? You're juggling a lot of places. How do you stay focused on what you need to be focused on? I'm sure you get asked to do 100 different things on any given week.

I'm sure everyone does. Everyone's got different situations. That's where reaching out to you and starting this journey. I realized that I was living two lives. I'm in the military. There are a lot of different types of things and demands but also at the same time, I went out on my own. I was doing night school. I spent eleven years of my life in college, getting a Master's, a PhD, and everything. That was a very lonely journey because you're working a full day, 9:00 to 5:00, and at night, spending lots of hours in classes and then writing papers. Kids are also involved.

I'm very thankful for my parents. My dad was an active duty service member. I was an Army brat born in Maryland. We moved around. My mom was a nurse. She did certain periods. She was the breadwinner. She was making money because nursing is a great field to be in as well. The long-term goal that was established early on was I look at why my parents did. They were very supportive and encouraging. My brother and I were the first people to go to college. We wanted to get a degree.

I didn't necessarily know even while I was doing all these things what I wanted to do until probably my mid-twenties. I realized the passion that I had to be a teacher and an educator. As a leader, you have to be that too. It's not just by being in a classroom and a professor. There are things that you have to manage. There are three major skills that I keep looking at with my personality. I have some strengths and certain weaknesses.

The major end goal where I want to be is trying to find, “The military is not going to last forever. How can I improve myself so I can better than also transition into other areas in academia, corporate, or whatever it may be and also still have the same skills that I've developed in the military but also look at ways of improving myself and getting myself out there to learn new things?” I don't know everything. A degree is a wonderful thing. Having letters and stuff next to your name is awesome. Time keeps moving forward, research and new education.

A lot of things that I'm always passionate about are going to be education. I would like to see, “Where am I going to be in ten years from now?” I'm hoping that I am with a team that is as energized and fired up about certain things as I am. It's a great camaraderie and moral thing but also being a person who is very empathetic and able to take care of people. I want to continue teaching and educating but also dive into other realms of research, maybe write a book and do another study or two, and hopefully would help future veterans or do a study that is helping out mid-level or small leaders impacts of training.

Those are things that I feel, “How can I leave a lasting mark?” It's hard to see those far-away goals sometimes. Making long-term goals is important but the short-term ones too are as important. What can you do in the next year? What can you do in the next two years? When can I do my next phase of military education? Do I want to get another degree? I don't know about that one but at least where can I focus my time to make it most beneficial to meet that final goal?

Making long-term goals is important, but the short-term ones too are just as important.

One thing to wrap a bow on it is my research on executive function. Executive function is a set of skills and we all have it. What makes you a competent human being? You have certain needs and decisions to make every day. Executive function is a set of skills of you establishing a goal and then thinking about the best ways available to you at this point to get that goal. The final piece is regulating your behavior to do it. That is a problem with many people.

We have different motivations, extrinsic and intrinsic. Things are more prioritized. Something's more rewarding to us or more gravitated towards this. Think of people who are like, “New Year's comes around. I'd like to have a New Year's resolution where I would only lose weight.”They have an established goal. They think about certain things that they may want to cut out of their life. Some of those bad habits, maybe no more soda. “You have a lot of sugar. I can't have that.”

The hard part is regulating the behavior and staying on track. Sometimes making goals is very nice. They have their hardship. Finding the smaller achievable goals to build to the long-term goal is probably the best way. I'm trying to explore, “Where am I going? I have an open road ahead of me. I still have a few years of military service left,” but at the same time, I want to make sure that that time is also going to be beneficial to move to the next step of my life.

You talked about your ideal. The wonderful exercise is, “Here we are and where we're going to be.” Anything that isn't up here and down here, you don't drag with you. A lot of people struggle with abandonment because they haven't determined exactly what they want. If you haven't taken the time to understand who you are, you can't understand anybody else until you understand yourself. Leadership is self-awareness. I know how I'm perceived, who's going to get me, and who's not going to get me but that's beautiful that you talk about your goals than anything. You can say, “Eventually, this is going to all dovetail into getting me where I want to be in ten years. It stays on the plate.”

You even talked about getting your PhD when you go back in for school, an advanced degree, or certification. You have to take stuff off. You have to abandon things that maybe you did before. You may go into mixers, fun, or vacation. You can't do that now because your end goal is this and there's only a certain amount of hours in a day. I like that. Goals help you stay at the forefront of what gets packed in the bag for the next level of the ascent and what stays at base camp. You're like, “I outgrew this. I don't need this anymore.”

Saying no is a very powerful thing. It's tough to do, especially with friends and other things but sometimes making sure you circle back to what does matter to you. Abandoning is tough. That's a very strong word.

It's something you did once. Saying no always means something's dying off but that's okay because abandonment means new growth can't happen until the dead disease is dying or pruning off. We're getting into fall but come spring, you whack everything off because if you don't, there's no explosive growth. You can't keep going and doing all the old things you used to do.

We're not made that way. We can't do it. We go through seasons. We're in this season. You're coming out of your military season. I did that many years ago. I had to go, “That worked for me. What do I bring along the way that is still all the skillsets?” There are things I had to stop doing and relationships I let go of because we're onto something else.

There's always going to be transitions with every type of job. It is not just the military out there that people are going to retire and move on. “You got that pension or whatever it may be.” There are certain goals you may have attained and then you want to move on to the next set. That's great. I'm not sure exactly even for me in my stage what is it even out there. That's where I feel that I'm doing my research and seeing what other opportunities could there be.

There's always going to be transitions with every type of job.

Maybe academia is where I would want to end up but what if there's an opportunity for me to also help government work or something with the corporate sector that I can get passionate about? I'm not saying no to anything. It's more about seeing what is the best way that I can move forward that will also help enhance my family's life and my values.

You're doing the heavy lifting and figuring out what you want. People say, “What's next? I haven't thought about it.” You're going to have to. We don't retire from something. We retire to something. That takes strategic planning and tactical. It takes setting some real things together. We have friends who got out of the military after 20 or 30 years and that's it. They didn't look long unfortunately because if you don't have a purpose and stuff like that, you're like, “What else is there?”

For some people out there, maybe they reach a certain point there and that's great. I do feel sometimes, “Why settle when there are other things that you can embark on a journey and embrace?” You're retiring to something new. That's excellent. I don't want to think of my life in phases of employment, the jobs I had, or the settings I was in. It's more so I feel that there's always continual growth.

There are certain things that you are going to outgrow. There are certain skills and things that I used to do. It's not saying that I'm above them by any means but they don't provide value to me anymore. There are new goals in mind that I need to focus on and maybe publishing a book. That's going to take time. I'm going to have to do maybe a page a night. It may take 270 days to do it. If I stick to it, that one page a day can get done.

Lastly, my father talked about vision. For leadership, the Bible is clear to say, “Without vision, people perish.” I can remember hearing vision as a young girl. I'm looking at these guys. They were born with it. They're on a different level. Their brains are wired differently and my dad was always like, “Vision is simply seeing what needs to be done and then doing it.” It had this future aspect but also very pragmatic tangible tactical aspects. Can you share with us what vision looks like for you and how you continue to hone and refine your vision?

It's not just the military. This translates to business as well. There's this concept of shared vision. “It's not just my vision. I want people that are working with me to understand that, ‘Though this is what I see, I'd also like to get that feedback from what other people's perceived problems with.’” This goes back a little bit with Major General Gronski. We were together overseas in Al-Ramadi for eighteen months of deployment. He had a very large problem set. This is how the military hierarchy is. It's the commander's intent.

It is the trickle-down effect of, “This is what the overall goal needs to accomplish.” In this large landscape, there are different departments, divisions, sectors, and people. Teams are handling different tasks in this large scope. If we all understand the higher intent and vision, and we still do our part that will help enable other coworkers, teams, and departments to also do their job supporting one another, and if we all stay on a task, we are able to achieve that final goal by doing our small little pieces.

When you're a leader, there's not necessarily a book of all the best possible solutions you could do. Every situation is unique. You have to analyze and understand what resources and constraints you have. Here’s one that I'd like to share. I was a company commander at the time and this is one of my favorite stories. In the National Guard, for those who aren't familiar with that, that's not their primary job. They are reservists working on a very part-time basis but they raise their right hand to serve in this country.

Every situation is unique. You have to analyze and understand what resources you have and what constraints you have.

They'll go wherever they need to go and do various types of missions, whether it's state, federal, overseas, or in the state, snow storms, flooding, or even types of civil disturbances or things like that. We often sometimes get called up to do some civil disturbance situations. Whenever you get these calls coming up where a large event is happening, maybe one of the conventions, or a large debate is going to happen somewhere, we at least know what's coming. Every time these come around, we have new people in our formation. People who used to be so knowledgeable and experienced are gone.

We have a younger crew or maybe some new generation who has never even done some of these things before. It's part of our vision to ensure that they're also trained in the best possible way. “Who are people in my company, formation, or team that can help enable and pass on some of this great knowledge?” Not every director or supervisor is an expert or has expertise in certain fields out there.

The one thing that I realized quickly is a large thing that we had to attend and do the presidential inauguration many years ago. We had to go down to DC and get deputized. We had to help the Secret Service and other people, keeping the safety of the public, the parade, and all the motorcades that were going through but also keeping people off the streets and making sure people were not interfering in any way. It was a very important type of mission.

One thing that we did as a shared vision was we understand the problem. We understand that there are numerous ways we can go about this. We were a very young crew here. I pulled together some of our senior enlisted sergeants, supervisors, or whatever you may call them in the civilian world. Some of them had a lot of this experience and we realize a lot of them had full-time positions. They were police or corrections officers. They had ties to other departments.

We wanted to leverage the resources in our community that have a lot of this expertise and together, we got a large exercise that we made up all by ourselves to then build towards before the big show where we had eleven departments to different police departments. We had state police, emergency services of all types, ambulances, dispatches, you name it. We put on a large-scale mock scenario training for 72 hours of various real-life scenarios. We’re writing a real script of things that could happen and making training as real as possible to meet the intent of the vision.

We made the training a lot harder than it was going to be at the inauguration. It was very stressful and intense. “If a bad scenario happened, this is how you would need to react to it.” It was very good with lots of stopping, pausing, and reflecting. “Let's talk about what happened. How can we improve that?” Also, having those after-action reviews to build forward. With vision, it's important to communicate the shared concept. Getting what people want to see, “How do they view success? How do I have you success? How should we marry the two?”

Shared Vision: With vision, it's important to communicate the shared concept.

Also, creating training that will ensure that people can meet not only the expectations of that's success and get them ready. Sometimes, with targets, time, and budget, there are a lot of restrictions. Things are always coming at a fast pace and it's hard to get training involved. It's proper. Some people will hand wave it. That's usually going to set up for a disaster, getting people to buy in early and then also having them be part of the training. I didn't create the entire training. I leveraged the resources I had and together with their hand in the pot, they wanted to own it.

They wanted to do it. They were happy with the product. That is a sense of belonging that we as a team can agree that we did a good thing. It got recognized which was not what we were looking for but the Army took notice. A lot of people got a good pat on the back here and there. I fortunately even got to go into the Pentagon. I got to receive a reward from former Chief of Staff General Mark Milley for putting on that large-scale exercise. Sharing that story, this is something that would be worked out for us. I hope that other people do the same. That was a very cool thing.

You talked about vision, the front end, and the back end. First of all, you said it was shared. I would tell people in leadership, “You all have to be viewing the goals through the same lens. If you have 100 different people, we all have our individual goals and motivations. We collectively all have to be tied to a shared vision.” I love that. Vision has to be shared and that combats that loneliness. I love that at the end you talked about an AAR or After Action Report for our readers.

One of the greatest things about the military was whenever we did anything, good, better, or ugly, we always did what we call a hot wash or an After Action Report. We sit there. We'd be very brutally honest with ourselves, “What do we own? What do we mess up?” I get with civilian corporations that I'm like, “We messed up but we're on to something else. Nothing changes until you identify the behavior and implement something.”

That’s what I love about it. The military was very honest with themselves, maybe not in the political realms but at the soldier level, we're very much about calling each other out. I love that provision. You're going to constantly be like, “We are all in. We can't take these 50 different mountains. Now that we've tried this vision, let's reevaluate. What do we keep doing? What do we stop doing? What are we doing that's already good?”

I love that because vision is a fluid thing. Your values are immutable but everything else is open for negotiation like contingency planning and the fog and friction war. I love that you talked about vision from a forward aspect but then you got to sit and evaluate it. I don't care if it was your vision. You have to look and see if that baby is ugly. What are you going to do to evaluate that?

Be honest about it. You love the project or a passion. If it didn't work, it didn't work. That's okay. What's the next step?

Root cause analysis and corrective actions. Otherwise, you're flying all over the place. It always baffles me. For readers, it’s ownership. I always say, “What can we own? What's going to happen differently the next time?” A lot of people are like, “It's out of our control.” I'm like, “There's always something. It's like saying you don't sin.”

When I was getting some of my clearances, they were like, “What if you broke the law?” I'm like, “I'm a law abider.” He's like, “You never went over the speed limit or rolled through a stop sign?” I’m like, “You're talking about those laws?” We can all own something in our lives that we're not at the bar of excellence that we claim that we are. I love that you talked about how values are shared. The outcome is all shared.

A part of it, together people feel a sense of belonging and responsibility to it as well. It's not just my vision anymore.

Shared Vision: When building a vision together, people feel a sense of belonging in responsibility to it as well.

Vision is multiple. Otherwise, it's your viewpoint. It's your vision when you get the team. If two or more are gathered, then it starts getting that synergistic thing. Thank you so much. We talked about loneliness, weariness, abandonment, and vision. Those are some wonderful examples, insights, and inspiration you gave us, as well as information. Is there anything else you'd like to share with us from a leadership perspective on why we have our readers here?

We hit so many good points. I feel that there are three skills when it comes to leadership that we all know. We have administrative, interpersonal, and conceptual skills. Out of those three buckets, it's important to self-analyze, where is the strongest skillset that you have out of those three? More than likely, there's probably one that is going to be where you feel the most comfortable. With administrative, that's the stuff where you're able to manage people and resources and show some technical competence and stuff because you've been on the job. You are getting the work done.

There's the inner personal side where I feel that some people are more emotionally intelligent. You're able to show empathy. You can manage people but anyone can do that because of your position and subordinates but how empathetic are you? How can you relate to what a person is experiencing on their job and their life? We all have different life experiences and also being able to manage conflict. That's also another part of the interpersonal and then the conceptual part. We were talking about creating visions, strategic planning, and problem-solving.

Some people may be more conceptual leaders. They're the ones who can make a vision pop. People get in on the strategy and plan it together, solving problems, framing the problem, and thinking of the best solution but then it goes into the administrative and interpersonal. Can you ensure that it is communicated properly or the resources are being managed properly or supporting the people to do the jobs and delegate?

I feel that is a revolving wheel in every phase of our life. There may be a certain part where we're better at one or the other. I feel that some jobs sometimes take us away from our people because there are certain responsibilities. We get siloed and there are also certain other things that we have projects we have to deal with. The higher you go up, the lonelier at the top. I feel that in my current phase of life, I'm with the team. I love that I can talk and relate.

It's great to go to work. It's good to have friends. It's good to see that when they have a problem, they're able to talk to me about it. When we're in that space sometimes, I'm not able to see conceptually some of the bigger picture because I'm more focused on the team right here in front of me where we're working together on certain goals but there are other things out there that I'll have to break away for a hot second, go to some of these meetings, and realize that there are certain things in the long-term calendar that we need to address. That's the balancing act.

As a leader, it's a self-assessment. Out of the administrative conceptual interpersonal, where do you feel is your best and weakest? If it's a weakest, does that require you to maybe do a sink, meet up, have a meeting, have a brainstorm session, or whatever it may be to fix one of those skills? Self-assessment and data are going to be your friend. That is the only way that we can truly reflect on feedback. Take it with a grain of salt and do not get upset by hearing that. Be honest with yourself, “Where are weak?” That's always the continual growth model for me.

Shared Vision: Self-assessment is your friend.

You talked about self-awareness. Where do you lead best? You alluded to it. We all have some of us who are more task, IQ, and EQ-focused. I even know when I was in high-tech fields before, my DISC was radically different than what it is now since I've been many years in coaching and teaching. I also think it's important to know where you serve best. I've been in Fortune 100 and the military. I'm in every bureaucracy known to mankind. I finally realized that I don't like bureaucracies. I'm a wild little Maverick. I had to look at myself and say, “Although I can climb the ladder, do I want to be in the big pond or am I most at home at this?”

I had to walk away from things and say, “I could have kept doing this.” In the end, as long as whatever you put your hand to and you do with all your might, you're going to be an asset or blessing anywhere but for me, I had to look at myself and say, “Do I want to get better or bigger?” “I want to get bigger.” “You got to make more money and be at the sea level.” I finally look at myself and go, “I don't want this. This is not one for me. Can I do it? Absolutely.”

It's important that you talk about self-awareness. I coached a lot of people through life transitions where they are going from working for somebody else to doing their thing. You get that calling and you can't stop thinking about it but it's a lot of different things. As you are going through yours, you have to be true to yourself.

Self-awareness is key. I love how you said, “Bigger versus better.” I'm going to use that.

Some people want to be bigger. I'm like, “That’s cool.” I want to get better in my little microcosm and niche. We learned that from the PhD. There's one thing in life like little nuggets of knowledge that I know better than anybody else. I like that. Somebody also builds on that but rather than be pontificating about everything, that's not what we're called to do. We have ChatGPT. You don’t need to do that. How can people get a hold of you? What’s the best way to connect with you?

I'm starting this journey myself. I’m putting myself out there more. I finished my degree so I'm working on different projects and stuff. LinkedIn is the best way to find me. The other thing is the gamification thing. I didn't get to talk too much about it briefly. For the younger crowd out there, a lot of kids are watching Twitch and stuff, which is fun. It's an on-stream service where a lot of people are playing games, doing reaction videos to certain things, watching a movie, and stuff like that.

It's a weird realm but one thing that I realized that I loved was spending time with my kids and doing things with them. I feel that with current technology, growing up, there are a few pictures of me and stuff but there are thousands of pictures of kids. I have my phone all the time capturing them. I want to show them the stuff and have these memories later on in life. It’s very cool in the video. There's a lot of great things.

With Twitch, I started doing a thing where I'm playing with my sons every so often which is great. It's awesome to see them first off be very good playing random video games together like Mario Kart and silly things like that. It's a good thing that I'm also leveraging as well. It's a good thing too. I've started doing this Twitch channel thing. I'm not too dedicated to it but if the readers out there have kids and stuff like that, they look for kid’s safe channels to watch. It's family-oriented stuff. It's a father and son hanging out, playing, engaging, and doing something cool.

It's an infant stage but I've noticed as I'm teaching, as a professor and stuff, I'm interacting with the younger students out there in their twenties and they're telling me about all these things and how a lot of them grew up watching YouTube more than anything. They didn't watch Nickelodeon, Disney, or something like that. They're watching other videos on TikTok and all that stuff. There are a lot of channels out there that are very safe, family-oriented, and things like that. That's a little passion project on the side. If you're on Twitch at all or if anybody out there even viewed that, come check out our channel.

I saw your Twitch link that came through. I was checking it out. That's very cool. You nailed it. I can't believe it's your first. You did tremendously. There is so much wonderful wisdom. I want to thank you for being a part of this, Lee.

Thank you so much for having me on. This is a great time.

You're welcome. To our tremendous readers out there, where would we be without you? If you like what you read, please hit the like and subscribe button. If you do us the honor of a review, it means everything. It helps other people who are looking for, “How can I be a tremendous leader find us?” We would be so thankful for that.

Please reach out to Lee. Make sure you connect with him. The goal is the people you meet in the book you read. You make sure you get a hold of Lee. I know you are out there paying the price of leadership. We're right there with you. Keep on paying the price of leadership. Have a tremendous rest of the day. Bye.

 

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About Lee Hardin

Lee Hardin holds a Ph.D. in Educational Psychology from Temple, and a Master's in Instructional Technology from Bloomsburg. He is currently an active duty army officer with 23 years of service in the PA Army National Guard and is an Iraq Veteran (2005-2006 Ar Ramadi, Iraq).

Lee is also an Adjunct Professor in the College of Education & Human Development at Temple. Research Interests in Executive Function/Self-Regulation, Gamification & Instructional Design. He is also the father of three boys and has been happily married for 11 years.

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