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Episode 182 - Joan Anderson - Leaders On Leadership

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"Success is not measured by how many people serve you but by how many people you serve."

For Joan Anderson, that success was not served on a silver platter because it took her great efforts to deliver that success to herself. In this episode, Joan shares how her efforts blossomed into Good Flights, no matter what she faced as a leader. Putting her worldview in place allowed her to combat different problems and stay on course. As we move further into the conversation, Joan reveals the persons who made her stay through her vision. She also takes us into the value Good Flights provide towards animals. So, join Joan Anderson in this episode if you want inspiration to soar higher towards your journey.

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Joan Anderson - Leaders On Leadership

I am here to welcome you to another Leaders on Leadership where we pull back the curtain on leadership and talk with leaders of all ages and all stages about what it takes to pay the price of leadership. I am tremendously excited to welcome my guest, the tremendous Joan Anderson. I want to tell you a little bit about Joan. Joan has been greatly blessed by being able to participate in the worlds of corporate IT and corporate management, and to serve overseas I'll tell you a little bit about that's where we connected.

She believes that one of life's greatest opportunities for deepest fulfillment is being able to serve others and positively impact their space. This yields deep joy for Joan, which you're going to know about and is her primary motivator. She reflects on Christ. She's a sister of ours and one of his models for success, “Success is not measured by how many people serve you, but by how many people you serve.” Joan, welcome to the show.

Thanks, Tracey. It’s such a blessing to be here and see you again.

To our readers out there, I'll always like to give people context. I met you in 2016. I went over to the Kosovo Leadership Academy, and that's where I met Joan. Joan was overseas teaching, and I went back several times since then. I’m always connected with Joan. In addition to loving to teach and serve the people in Kosovo and teach leadership, Joan also is huge into pet rescue. She's going to talk with us at the end about that. I would connect with Joan and bring pups back from the streets of Kosovo, and I would land in BWI and somebody would pick them up. We serve God and a lot of God's creatures together. Joan, I'm thrilled to have you here. It's been many years we've known each other and you're one of my heroes.

That's humbling to me. I don't know if you remember, but I'll share it with your readers. We first met getting on the bus from the hotel and Christina went to the ribbon-cutting ceremony at this school. I remember vividly getting on the bus and saying, “There's a mom and a handful of puppies in the back of the hotel. It's July. They have no food and water.” Tracey turned to me and said, “We're going after them when we get back. We're going to feed them and get them water,” then thus began our relationship.

That was wonderful. We went back there. We brought them some food and you can share what's going on. It's getting better, but there's still a long way to go, but one street dog at a time. That was a fabulous ribbon cutting. We'll talk a little bit about a KLA and the work there that you've done and what you're doing now. Joan even lived with me for a time a couple of years ago and helped me set up and get the show and the office. We keep crossing paths, and it's exciting. She's back stateside. I'm sure she'll tell you about what she's doing. When I thought about the show and all you've been through, I want to unpack my father's speech called The Price of Leadership, where he talked about the four things you're going to have to experience and pay if you are going to be a leader and not a leader in name only.

The first one he talked about is loneliness. We've all heard the phrase, “It's lonely at the top. Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” even Christ toward loneliness. Can you share with our readers a time in your life when you encountered loneliness, a season of it, and what words you would give to our readers out there perhaps if they are in a season of loneliness?

Thanks for sharing your father's writings. I learned much from him. This particular speech that he gave, reflects upon loneliness, the way he describes it, I remember being in Kosovo, being able to embrace the students, and being impacted by their uniqueness and how special they were. I wanted to do all that I could to bring home to them how valuable they are and even perhaps instill in them a belief that they can bring change to their country. One of the assignments that I was given was to teach a STEM course for a full year for the eighth to twelfth grades. I didn't know STEM. I was a Math person. We dug in and exploited together.

One of the comments or things that the students would always share with me is how embarrassed or frustrated they were with the state of the pollution in their country. They have water, air, and street garbage. That's everywhere. I started looking around and I read about Sweden's transformation. Stockholm, one of the major cities in Sweden, was given the Green City of the Year Award in the world. We started to study and I said, “Let's start looking into this. Let's study Sweden and see what was their transformation and how it transpired for the country.”

I started to get this idea in my head, “Wouldn't it be great if we did a multimedia presentation and we took it to Sweden and we gave the kids the opportunity to travel there and learn from the experts?” This was a crazy idea. That's where the loneliness part sets in. Not from a negative standpoint from anybody there, but I knew to pursue this path that I was going to be out there on my own trying to make this work.

Lo and behold, the kids set off and they worked on building this presentation. I did some research and I contacted a think tank in Sweden. I arranged a meeting with them in the summer. I flew over. The director was going to come. She had some other obligations where she couldn't come to the last minute, flew, met with them, and proposed the idea. The director of the think tank was moved to no end he said, “Please bring your students here and we'll give them a week of touring and education.” Long story short, in October of that year, we took fourteen students. They got a grand tour of all that Sweden had done to go from where they were to where they were back the time when we visited them. It was transformational not only for me but for the students too.

One of the leaders who had been in the transformation of Sweden for many years spent so much time with the students, talking to them, and taking them to different waste management facilities. The tour guide of the research facility said to me, “I've done over 100 of these and I've never seen him spend so much time with a tour group. Out of those 100, this group has been the most impressive that I've ever done.” She had done tour groups. To have a student tour group was very rare, but then to have that accolade was something else. What was neat was when we got there, they asked if our kids would do a presentation. We pulled it together. We pulled very late-night sessions and picked the students nominated for the team to present.

One presented at the school and one presented on Kosovo, and they nailed it. They did a fabulous job, then we started to get requests from other Sweden businesses for them to come and present their story. It was truly remarkable. The kids got home. Not long after that, that gentleman who had been in Sweden for 40 years emailed me. He said, “Here's something you need to go to.” It was a business or leadership seminar created in Macedonia by some leading entrepreneurs for the transformation of Macedonian and the neighboring countries.

That developed a relationship that blossomed later. She invited our students to Macedonia to attend seminars on entrepreneurship. From that, we took eight students to that one. One of the young men who was very bright said, “That was one of the best weekends of my life.” It all came because of this passion or this urging that God gave me, “No matter how lonely you are or nobody's standing beside you, you need to do this.” That initial trip to Sweden came out of my own pocket. I had to just go with it. That was the story of professional loneliness, stepping out there, and then the rewards that came from that.

I love that. Remember, if you are the first one doing this, by nature of the fact that you're the first one doing it, you're going to be the only one or alone. I know it's a different form of loneliness, but I love it. You're in a different culture with a different perspective of, as you said, clean water and a different language, yet you still, all the times, feel like, “I'm alone in many ways. Not just in concept,” but also you were not from this land. You're a sojourner over there but trying to help. I love that even if we're in circumstances where we are alone from how we look, speak, and where we come from, if it's laid on your heart, you got to go for it.

You followed it. You put your own sweat and wealth equity in there to make it happen, which is a big deal because a lot of people are like, “Nobody's going to fund it,” then you fund it. You may be the only bank account. A lot of times in entrepreneurship and ministry, we are self-funding. Thank you for sharing and your bravery in doing that. He talked about, as far as loneliness, is weariness. I know some of the things over there. You are working to make things better. It's a seed like a starfish. I say that one little starfish, but there's a gazillion starfish or dogs or kids out there. How do you stay strong? I know a lot about your health and how you take care of yourself, but how do you combat weariness?

The most pivotal season of my life was when I came to faith in Jesus. I was introduced to Christian apologetics. That has been the anchor for my life. One of the leaders who taught me so much said, “We all have four basic questions that we need to answer. They are origin, ‘How did we get here?’ Meaning, ‘What is my purpose?’ Morality, on what foundation do we determine right from wrong, and destiny, ‘Where are we going?’”

From that, if we answer those questions honestly, and then our answers are measured with integrity against the test for truth, we begin to shape a worldview from which provides a lens for us to view the world. Once I grasped and pursued that, all of these questions that your dad has presented and talked through, I kept coming back to this framework as being my solution and foundation for getting through.

Our answers are measured with integrity against the test for truth.

For weariness, very rarely my weary from the standpoint of discouragement or despair. We all deal with physical lonely or physical weariness because we get tired. Even that, when I'm pursuing my passion, the physical weariness side is much less than if I didn't have that drive. I can go a lot further. I switched from two different roles in my work. One was very much focused on my team. I was in a supervisory role.

I could work 12 to 15 hours and look at the clock and say, “Where did that go?” I'm helping solve problems and I'm helping people. I've found that gives me so much energy. I switched now to doing more of a staff-oriented role in reading and research, which has always been my passion. I found that I do get tired much more quickly than when I'm serving people. That's been enlightening to me. I like them both. When I'm serving people and meeting their needs, I can go a lot further. For me, weariness can be combated by having my worldview firmly in place and making sure I'm sticking to those principles.

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Good Flights: Weariness can be combated by having your worldview firmly in place and ensuring you stick to those principles.

One is weary. Is it that cognitive work tires you more physically? Your brain is a muscle, too, or do you think it's more you're in your gifting more with serving others? I'm sure you're excellent at both, but where do you think the different level is weariness? That's the other thing. Is it just actual weariness because we're mere mortals, or is it your body telling you, “This is the weariness where you need to adjust something?” If you're assigned at work, you're assigned at work, but what do you think?

I have seen that with pure cognitive work, get there and log, you start your day and end where you end much more drained from a cognitive exercise, constantly reading manuals. My job is to create a teaching curriculum. I'm reading the product manuals and shaping it. It is more draining. I am older now, too. It's not like I'm fresh in college and I can do much more, but I could do twice as many more hours if I'm helping solve problems for my team than when I'm pure cognitive effort.

The mind is a muscle too.

I'm sure age factors in there too.

Loneliness and weariness. My father talked about abandonment. Typically, abandonment has a very negative connotation, fear of abandonment, or in the world of pet rescue like Joan and I are, that is the unforgivable sin, but that's not what he's talking about. When he talks about abandonment, what he means is pruning away what is not your highest and best calling. Stop doing what you like and want to do and favor what you ought and need to do. It's a tight, singular focus. I'm sure you get called many ways to serve. You're good in many ways. How do you stay on point?

I like how your father phrased the concept of abandonment. It comes back to a sharply focused worldview because that provides a filter for what we allow into our space and what we say no to, even though there's a flood of honorable efforts in which we can place our time. Once we understand our purpose and the framework that God has given to us, both generally as Christian people but also individually, those things are much more easily handled and addressed.

I love that honorable efforts and that filter. It's all good, but remember, God knows everything. Don't say, “If I don't do it, it nobody will.” That's not true. God already knows who's going to do it because he's already seen it to the end. It's good to let go of that because sometimes we beat ourselves up like, “If I don't do it,” trust me. You are not indispensable. Even the bad stuff, God reworks. I love that honorable efforts, honorable in whose eyes, it may be honorable, but is it your best? I love that sharply focused and then the filter can weed out the stuff that somebody else should be called to serve to do.

I like what your dad said that the power of a single book at the right time in a person's life is unlimited. Keeping my mind in the right books and the right content helps shape things and provide perspective so well. In addition when I go to bed or put my head on the pillow at night, I want to know that he would say, “Well done.” That's a driving factor. that helps filter out a lot of the items that I used to not be focused on that I'm not particularly called to. That helps a lot. I also learned that there are some things in life that give my worldview a kick. I used to teach Sunday school for kindergarteners and first graders. I would come out of there and I would be humbled. My world would've got a reshaping because kids and animals can set your course right back in gear. They're simple and humble. Their perspective is so clear. Those kinds of things helped me focus on the right things.

You brought up the thing about the books. I did hear a sermon and they talked about, “We're in this artificial construct of time that God put us in for now, but he is eternal and everything beyond. Once we're out of these suits, we're back into the eternal phase. There are pieces of us that are eternal.” They said, “Whenever you are in the word or reading a great book from somebody that has gone on to glory, you step out of the temporal world into eternity.”

That's why these books can transform you. I thought, “We can be in eternity ahead of time and get a jump by the more grateful.” That's such a great way to put it because that's where you do get transformed. You don't just learn more from this, but you lead this world and you get to start tasting glory ahead of time. I'm glad you brought that up because with abandonment, we need to stop and, “You're tired,” or, “You're working all day and researching. You need to read fiction or watch a silly show for a little.” Be very intentional about not being on a steady diet. It'll rot your mind like too many sweets rot your teeth and abandon the time where it's not good in the overall picture.

I'm glad you brought up that thing that he talked about. It says at the right time. Loneliness, abandonment, and then vision. I can remember growing up with these greats that I sat under. I'm like, “That's them. They're visionaries. I'm a doer.” Like you, I like fixing things. I like researching. My dad was like, “Vision is seeing what needs to be done. We can do that. We got a discerning eye, and then doing it.” He was very pragmatic about it. I'm like, “I get it. You have to be like Nostradamus or Elon Musk visionary.” Vision is going out there and being very strategic but then having a call to action and being very tactical. I've watched you go through many changes in your life and we're always calling each other up and saying, “What's the next chapter looking like?” How do you craft your vision?

I loved what your dad said and many aspects of it. He first said, “We can't pay the price of leadership without knowing where we're going and what we're doing. Perspective is vital.” He quoted scriptures in Proverbs 29:18, “Without vision, people perish.” I remember sharing that with some of the students in Kosovo. It's profound. In that, it says that it's a mandate. God wouldn't say that in that way if it wasn't something that we were supposed to pursue and follow. Plus, he gives the tools to pursue it. What I took away profoundly from your dad was he said, “Vision is being able to see things as they are.” What rang true to me was the definition of truth in Christian apologetics is reality as it is. Truth is what corresponds to reality.

That always made me think. What the Christian worldview provides most clearly is the profound way to see what we experience day in and day out as it is. It gives us an unusual vantage point. Your dad says he learned so much from great thinkers like Lincoln, Patrick Henry, and some other profound people. My go-to men are CS Lewis and GK Chesterton. They helped me stay true to my vision. Alister McGrath wrote a lot about CS Lewis in a biography. His comments on this concept of vision, if you don't mind, I'll read.

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Good Flights: What the Christian worldview provides most clearly is the profound way to see what we experience day in and day out as it really is.

For Lewis, the Christian faith offers us a means of seeing things properly as they are, like your dad would say, “Despite their outward appearances, Christianity provides an intellectually compassionate and imaginatively satisfying way of seeing things and grasping their interconnectedness, even if we find it difficult to express in words. Lewis's affirmation of the reasonableness of the Christian faith rests on his own quite distinct way of seeing the rationality of the created order and its ultimate grounding in God. Using a powerful visual image, Lewis invites us to see God as both the ground of the rationality of the world and the one who enables us to grasp it.”

He says, and this is a popular quote of Lewis, “I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen. Not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” He offers us a standpoint from which we may survey things and grasp intrinsic coherence. That is one of the tests for truth, too, in coherence. I keep two to my vision if I align myself that particular day by focusing on God's word, his truth, and his portrayal of reality as it is.

Thank you. For our readers out there, if you want to learn more about apologetics, which is Lewis is another one of my top five, he was the master of it. It is the way he would unpack the truth. I always say unpacking truth, but you called it the test for truth. I heard a sermon and it said, “Love, unless it's rooted in truth, is not love.” I love that you've hit on truth because a lot of people are always, “Love.” No. That is a poison love if it's not grounded or rooted in truth. If you tell somebody if you're a life coach or, “I can change your life,” if it's not rooted in the reality of what's going on, you're enabling, you're setting them up for failure, or you're setting them straight on the pathway to hell. You got to have truth always into it. I love that. That's what vision is. We got to be honest with ourselves and before God. We got to let him shine the light through us and see all the things that we don't want to see or can't see. I love that you pulled Lewis and Chesterton into it. I love those two.

They are profound thinkers. We've been blessed by God putting them on this Earth.

I even read one page of anything CS Lewis. One page takes me half an hour because I sit there and I'm like, “I can't wait to meet him. Out of all the people I'm excited to meet, he's in the top twenty. There are others before, but he is definitely a runner-up.”

Even a quote, I have a book on The Quotable Lewis and I sent you a picture of my cat sitting on top of the book keeping his thoughts.

Thank you so much for unpacking what these four concepts mean to you. Is there anything else from a leadership perspective? Could you bring us up to speed on where you are now? I'd like for our readers to read about what you're doing because you are still reaching out even though you're living stateside with impacting the lives of the street dogs in Kosovo.

I came back a few years ago now. I came back first because one of my students got a scholarship at a top school here, then I've stayed and I'm back in the corporate world, back in technical education. I'm enjoying that. I've also kept in touch with some special people over there. Do you remember I introduced you to my vet over there who's one of the leading vets in the country? We went out of her way to come with us and we looked at some property for him to build a state-of-the-art facility. He ended up building one in the city of Christiania, which is where his client base was. He's there, but the animal situation is very dire in there and Kosovo still. Tracey, you were one of the ones who said, “I can't go anymore. It hurts too much.”

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Good Flights: The animal situation is very dire in Kosovo.

I've seen a lot of bad things. I've been to war. The dog thing is difficult.

All the readers should know that every time Tracey came, she took 1 or 2 dogs back with her. You were stranded in the airport once with one of the dogs.

Thank goodness it was Frankfurt. The Germans loved their hunds. I was like a rock star in the airport. If I had been in England, they liked their cats. In Germany, I had this beautiful shepherd mix and I'm like, “I know. This dog is cool.” Bella was her name. If you're going to get stranded with a dog, Frankfurt's a good airport to be at.

In fact, I brought two Kosovo dogs back here and they were oddly enough rescued by two German women who were working in Kosovo. They ended up at Lousim. Lousim is a fine young man over there. He's like us. He can't say no. He's got about 100 dogs that he has on his property and it's immaculate. He knows how to do it. He runs it, but it's never-ending. He is trying to build up to 200. Long story short, we formed an NGO in Kosovo and they wanted some strategic people on that. One is my vet and one is Lousim, and then a local man who is the director. He has built many animal facilities for me on my property. The goal is to try to influence the government and have a strategic operation from the government down to try to rid of the stray population of Kosovo. There is something you said when we were driving around in Kosovo one day, “America was like this once years ago, and this can be fixed.”

We treated animals like property and dirt, and street dogs too.

That stuck with me. I have this belief that similar to embarking on a trip to Sweden on a much smaller scale, we can impact. It takes the right people, somebody where it's not an impact to their budget to invest. We'd like to tactically get as many dogs and cats out of Kosovo until we can have a countrywide solution but build shelters there too. We have a building plan for a shelter on the property where I live.

Once it's seen how it can be done, we can replicate it. The goal would be to go out of business, not to have shelters, but to spay-neuter effectively. Money is given for spaying and neutering, but it doesn't go to the animals. One of my dogs that I brought home was tagged, but he wasn't neutered. You'll see pictures of female dogs with tags but they have a litter of puppies. The money is not used properly. It needs great oversight. Strategically, we'd like to rid the stripe population by having an effective program to influence the country. I’m trying to impact the suffering that's going on through different mechanisms.

Can people reach out to you if they're interested in supporting you?

I have my personal email address.

You talked about that. Are they called the Anatolian Shepherds?

Yes.

You have two of them.

I have a Shar.

Are they similar to the Anatolian Shepherds?

No, the Anatolians have shorter hair, but I did have one of those over there. It's amazing, but these are the Shar dogs and that's a shorter nickname for the Albanian name, but they are like a Great Pyrenees Newfoundland.

I was at a Christmas market. A lady had two Anatolian shepherds and I'm like, “I never knew anybody stateside.” She's like, “There's a lady that brought back these from overseas. Eleven dogs and she breeds them, but if you're interested in rescuing one, there's plenty of them.” I've never seen anybody stateside that even knew the breeder had one. it was fascinating.

Let Joan know because they have this transport going back and forth. Usually, it gets into Maryland or the DC area and picks the puppies up. It makes an impact. It teaches the youth, too, that these are God's creatures. They deserve love and compassion, too, because until you're taught that all things from the planet, everything on the planet to include the planet, need care and tending to by a man and woman, you don't intrinsically get that.

Animals are God's creatures, and they deserve love and compassion.

I've come across this. There have been two organizations that do flight rescues with dozens of animals. I've reached out to them. They've been stateside mostly, but they said, “We'll keep it as an option.” That would be a way to get through the winters particularly.

For anybody that travels overseas, before you go over, if you're going with anybody, ask them, “Is there a local vet or rescue?” You're going to show up early. The rescue pays the money. You would tell people, “I'm a pet mule. I'm not smuggling drugs, I'm bringing a pet.”

We call them flight volunteers. All the paperwork is done. You just show up.

I just take my dog if it is small enough to carry on. Otherwise, they'd transport it. If you're flying overseas and you want to add the blessing, they need an escort. Ask people over there, “Is there a local shelter or vet clinic that they show up?” You pick the animal up at the airport and get it through. That's another fabulous way to serve.

We're grateful for people like you, always taking animals back.

That was a lot of fun. You brought back great memories. Joan, I can't thank you enough. I look forward to connecting with you in person, especially now that you're stateside again.

I’m grateful to you, Tracey. Thank you for your time. It's been a blessing.

You are so welcome. To our leaders out there, remember. You're going to be the same person five years from now that you are now, except for two things, people you meet and the books you read. You got to meet the tremendous Joan Anderson. Please connect with her. If you like what you heard, please make sure you subscribe so you don't miss another episode. If you would do this in honor of the review, that help other people see what they need to read. We hope that you've been blessed with paying the price of leadership. I thank you all for paying the price of leadership. Joan, thank you again, and to our tremendous readers out there, have a tremendous rest of the day.

 

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Joan has been greatly blessed by being able to participate in the worlds of corporate IT, and corporate management, to serve overseas. She believes that one of life's greatest opportunities for deepest fulfillment is in being able to serve others and perhaps positively impact their space. This indeed has yielded a deep joy for her and is a primary motivator for daily sustenance and motivation. Reflecting on Jesus and one of His models for success, someone once shared that "Success is not measured by how many people serve you but in how many people you serve." This is her motto.

Episode 180 - Paget Keller Rhee - Leaders On Leadership

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It’s not easy sitting at the top. As leaders, we must deal with many things to exact your vision and fight for your passion and purpose. Today, Paget Keller Rhee, the owner of six BeBalanced Centers, explains how to find your passion and surround yourself with people who remind you of your WHY. Her touching story with foster care reveals how she fought for her passion and purpose, but she learned when to step down from the battle. In this heartfelt conversation with Paget, she lightens the path of how self-care and mental health are important, and that is where BeBalanced Centers supports. Be inspired to climb to the top. Join Paget Keller Rhee in this inspiring episode today.

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In this episode, I am very excited because my guest is the tremendous Paget Rhee. Paget, welcome.

Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to have this conversation. When we reconnected again, I was like, "Your energy is infectious. I need that."

Thank you, Paget. Right back at you. I want to tell our audience a little bit about you. Paget is the owner of six BeBalanced Centers. She is passionate about inspiring women to live their best lives at any age by understanding hormone balance and how it affects our physical and mental health.

We all need that support.

She's a South Central person like me. We connected at a women's conference where she was there representing what she's doing. We caught up after all these years of being entrepreneurs and working to do our calling. I thought, "I have to get her after hearing all the tremendous things she's doing and get her on this show." Paget, let's get right into it because I know you're going to unpack a lot of what you're doing and what your journey has been.

My father wrote a speech called The Price of Leadership decades ago. Leadership is always such a hot topic. In it, he talks about the four prices you're going to have to pay if you are going to be a truly authentic leader and not just a leader in title only. The first thing he talked about was loneliness. We have all heard that it's lonely at the top. Can you unpack for our audiences what loneliness has meant for you throughout your very career and maybe some advice you might give to our audiences if they're in a season of loneliness?

That is so interesting. He identified that so many years ago. Everybody sometimes exalts, "It must be so great to be in charge or be the leader." You get all the recognition but you also get a lot of other things. You have to be so intentional about surrounding yourself with people who can support you when you need but you also have to become very comfortable with being uncomfortable. That's important because it is sometimes lonely at the top.

I hate to use that but I've been in leadership. As I've been looking back on some things I'm dealing with in my situation, I have learned a few things or fortified my mind and spirit with some things that get me through these challenges but when I was much younger, it was hard. I founded a nonprofit in DC when I was much younger in 1994. I didn't expect that loneliness. I was so excited and passionate. I was ready to attack the world. It did hit me because I was alone.

Nobody had the vision that I had. Nobody had caught the vision that I had caught. Even my husband didn't know what to do with me because he was not in the same place. I was starting to explore my entrepreneurial leadership spirit that had grown through college and the different opportunities that came to me. When I was a child, my teachers used to say, "I hope she will be good at something." It wasn't that I always had this energy or confidence. These opportunities presented themselves.

One of the things that became apparent loneliness was back in 1992 when I went to work for the DC Department of Recreation. I was given an opportunity to run all of the recreational day camps throughout the city. I don't know if you would understand. This is a very dangerous neighborhood. I was a young White female from Lancaster County, Pennsylvania. I was the only Caucasian person on staff if I could. I was put in a very difficult situation being younger than most of the people who worked for me.

I learned so much about leadership, humility, building a team, and standing by the principles that I stood for. A lot of the people who worked under me were shocked by my expectations of them, which had not been the case in previous years. By the time we got through all of the time, we could celebrate together because they felt like they had accomplished something even though it wasn't how they had envisioned the leader of this organization being. They didn't envision a young White female coming in and trying to be in charge but I thought that we all came out with a common goal.

At the end of this period, we threw a huge community celebration throughout the city that recognized all of their hard work, which hadn't been done previously. I remember this sense of changing from me and them to, "We're together." For me, that was a life-changing moment where I felt like, "We can do hard things, bring different people together, and accomplish things together."

I felt lonely in those times. I was in neighborhoods I didn't recognize. I was pulled over by the police multiple times for being in that neighborhood because they thought I was buying drugs there. I had to keep telling them, "This is my office. I work here." That was probably the start of one of the loneliest periods and there have been many others. It is tough. You have to know your passion and find people who know your why and can remind you of that why when it gets to that tough time.

You should know your passion and find people who know your why and can remind you of that why when it gets to that tough time.

I love that you said you had caught the vision but not everybody, including your spouse or your former coworkers, caught it yet. That's such an important point for our audiences out there. It takes time. You may be lonely, and everybody has to go through a season of loneliness but if it lasts too long, then there might be a culture disconnect. It takes time for them to realize, "She is one of us. I can process where she's coming from because they don't know us. We don't know them." It is lonely. It's like making friends, "I don't have any friends. Now, I have friends because we got to know each other." I love that you said that. In the back of your mind, although you were young, did you think that eventually it would get to that? That's pretty evolved thinking as a young leader.

You're helping me unpack some of this. The idea that this could work happened in my household. My parents had adopted eight children. We had over 50-some foster kids in and out of my house. I always saw myself as not a leader of them but I wanted to expose them to new ideas that would give them the hope that they could do things differently in their lives than what they had experienced.

My parents adopted eight Vietnamese brothers and sisters. My family was always very mixed in cultures and circumstances. We didn't have a lot of money but the things that I took from that always helped me think that bringing people together is going to look strange at the beginning but wonderful in the end. When I got into that situation in DC, I knew this was going to work out and I knew they were going to love me once we figured it out. Maybe that was naive but they respected me.

It used to be that on rainy days, everybody would go home. On rainy days, we were all going to the offices to organize, prepare, plan, and work together. It wasn’t like, "Everybody is going home." It was a very different change in work culture as well for them but by the time they got done with it, they saw me there with them doing the same things with them. I do feel like it changed their perspective.

You said something important. I do agree that as leaders, we have to be prepared to allow people time to catch the vision but I also think we need to be prepared. It's such a fine balance to say when our vision isn't right. How do we judge that? There have been times when I've had to abort a mission where I was like, "I thought this was a path," but I had to be less emotional and more logical. I'm probably more emotional as you can see as I get into this. What you said is wise though. It's such a fine line. Where do you go? This path might not have been the right call and maybe I need to adjust it.

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Leadership: We have to be prepared to allow people time to catch the vision.

I've done it too. You are going to see that the followers are 80% of the equation. If you get to a point where you realize, "I am not a good fit," that's very evolved as a leader to say, "I need to go someplace else." We come into these places and I've had that happen. Don't think you failed as a leader because it's a dance. If certain people are dancing to a different tune, you need to go like we expect them to leave if it's not a good fit. If there's not a value congruence or something like that, we need to go too.

That's why I tell people, "If the door is closed, kick it." I get it but you can only kick so far before you're going to break your legs off. You're meant to just knock on some doors, get the experience, and then go to another door. You were talking about foster care. No wonder you have such resilience as far as finding common ground and a way to identify. That's what true leadership is because unless they can identify with you, there's not going to be anybody in communication. I almost started crying. That's unbelievable that you got exposed to that.

I adopted my middle daughter from foster care. That's a story for later. You were talking about not kicking a door down. I had one of my best and worst experiences in DC after I left working for the Department of Recreation. I stepped down from that position. DC cut down 80% of its recreation budgets way back in the early 2000s, which created a major loss in the communities that we worked in, which were incredibly challenged communities.

There were no longer recreation centers for kids to go to and services for after school. I was passionate about finding ways to continue to provide those opportunities. First, I started volunteering at a homeless shelter. We created a program for teen homelessness. I worked with a young prostitute program in DC and spent all night in jail with young prostitutes. Those are some of my powerful memories of those opportunities.

My husband and I got married. We went to this church. My husband and I were taking turns choosing what church we would go to and trying them out as we were trying to find where we would fit. It was my husband's week to choose. He's like, "Here's one that says Lindberg Falk." I've never gone to a church with a woman pastor. This is back in 1994. I'm like, "We will try it."

We went to the church. It was a small Southern American Baptist-aligned church in the middle of Washington DC put exactly between the White House and the Capitol on Eight Street, and Eight Street at that point in time in '94 was very dangerous. There were lots of homelessness and drugs. It wasn't as it is in 2023 where it's like Disneyland. That was not like that then.

We went to the church. Afterward, the pastor invited us to lunch. My husband and I went with him and walked across the street to a little Chinese restaurant because it's right in Chinatown. I told him my vision, "My heart is to start a program for kids." I get emotional talking about it because I had this vision. I wanted to start a program that involved recreation, spiritual development, and education for kids in the community because of the loss of these recreational programs that I knew were out there.

He said to me, "Do you see this whole building?" At that time, we had a whole block-long building, four stories high. He said, "At one point in time, this building was a youth center in the '60s but we have lost funding. We don't have anyone to run it and nothing is going on." As I walked through this building, it was dilapidated. It had a full commercial kitchen and a whole dining room to seat 200 people and lots of things going on there. This is after a few conversations. He said, "We will give you that space and $5,000 of seed money. You see what you can do."

I took it. My office to start was a little broom closet. I had a desk and a phone. We didn't have computers at that point in time. I remember doing whatever I could. We grew that program, raising all of our funds. We built out a whole program called Urban Hands, which hosted mission teams from all over the country. It's another story to help them work in the city. I was able to grow fifteen sites across the city using the hands of mission teams. It grew very large.

During that time, I was in an old historic church that valued more that all of the chairs were lined up on Sunday morning for their Sunday school classes of 6 people rather than the 120 kids that I had there for a Christian concert the night before. It became difficult to continue to exact my vision there. At that point in time, across the street, they had built a very large building that housed a conservative political group. I'll not name it at this point. One day, a check arrived on my door from the president of that organization that said, "I see those kids coming in and out every day and you need to use this for your purposes." The church made me turn it around and give it back because they didn't approve of him.

Those kinds of things hurt my heart. I opened the doors and we had 120 kids within 6 days. Georgetown Law was sending volunteers. We were doing everything we could because I had to raise all the money to do everything. As it turned out in the end, we had about a $500,000 budget. What I learned from that experience is that where passion is, money will follow. I'm never worried about getting the money that I need if you're bringing passion to the project.

Where passion is, money will follow.

When you talked about knowing when to leave, that was probably one of the hardest decisions I ever made because we were successful. I was living in my purpose. We had won tons of awards in DC and were recognized in the Washington Post for all of that we were doing but I couldn't keep fighting that battle. Good things happened because when I stepped down, I found out I was pregnant with my second child.

I realized that having a two-year-old in the backseat of a car with gunshots outside of the car was probably not where I needed to be. The pastor who gave me that opportunity stepped down from the pastorate, started a separate nonprofit, and took it all over to a different place. It's all good. That is a separate nonprofit in DC. That was so hard to walk away from something that I loved.

That's going to resonate with a lot of people. I have a dear friend who called me and is stepping away from something that they did not want to do. If there's so much of a fight, we have to look at it. I can't control the outcome but all I can control is the processes, the vision, and what I am stewarding. Everything else is in God's hands. He already knew that church was going to do that to you at that date and he already had it planned for what's next.

We have to remember that as leaders. It is gut-wrenching but understand that it's going to happen once or twice. It's going to happen throughout your life. The more it happens, you realize, "That's not what I was hoping for but I know this is going to come back to me in a different form and in a more powerful way." As a leader, you get more comfortable with that.

I can't imagine at that young age having that but it's good to see too the nasty politics of infighting. We're all supposed to be in this together. When people call me brokenhearted, I'm like, "When did you ever think that people weren't self-oriented, selfish, and mean?" It's part of our nature. It's also good as a young leader to know that so you can be very balanced about the reality of humanity and what's out there and be prepared as a leader to have your heart broken but that's okay because God heals our heart and the vision takes us forward.

What I had to learn also from that situation and so many others is that I'm only responsible for showing up and being responsible for what I'm called to do. The results are in God's hands from my perspective.

People say, "Why did my husband do this?" That's between them and God. All you can do is do the best that you can do and keep moving forward. Thank you for unpacking that. You feel like you are in your home and then the season of loneliness comes again. You don't know. My friend called me and said, "I'm in a season of loneliness again where I have to go out." For the leaders out there, it happens. This is Paget and me retelling you to keep the faith because there's something unbelievable.

This is relevant. I walked away from that and stayed in touch with a lot of kids. They were teenagers. I still have relationships with a lot of the people that I worked with who were younger people at that point in time. I always have taught my mission teams that I've trained. I teach a poverty simulation course, helping people understand cycles of poverty and urban issues, and being aware that we're not that different and that we're all very similar in our experiences.

If I could share, sometimes you will get to know what you did, what you meant, and what that time you went through was worth later. It was a few years ago. As a leader, my job is to be one of the defensive linebackers where I'm giving people behind me the opportunity to live their passion as well. I do that with my staff at BeBalanced. I did that with several people in DC. There were young people who were coming a little younger than I was and saying, "I have this passion. This is what I want to do. I want to start this program. I want to do this or that."

One of those was a young gentleman from Howard University. He was supposed to become a lawyer. His mother is a judge and his father is an attorney. His purpose was to become a lawyer. He came to work in a volunteer capacity from us but had a real passion for the arts and kids in the community. He ended up wanting to start the first Christian go-go band club in DC. I don't know if you know what go-go is but go-go is a thing that's DC-related, which would be crazy if you know DC because it is dangerous. You don't want to ignite things but you also want to give people the opportunity to see how to enjoy the music that they enjoy in a safer and wholesome environment.

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Leadership: Give people the opportunity to see how to enjoy a safer and more wholesome environment.

I acted like a linebacker and pushed away. I went to a lot of other African-American churches and said, "Do you want to partner with us on this?" They're like, "We don't want anything to do with it." As crazy as it might be, there was a young Christian go-go band that wanted to play. A lot of Howard University students came and led line dances and things. Everything was clean and fun but every night after 120 kids would leave on a Saturday night, I would breathe a sigh of relief that we had no issues and problems but it was challenging.

I could have walked away from that whole thing and said, "I don't want to have anything to do with that. It's too risky." Maybe that would have been the wiser thing to do but I didn't. It was successful. As it turned out, all the African-American churches started sending people. We were growing and people were loving what we were doing. We did it once a month. We ended all of that.

This gentleman turned out to marry one of the other girls who worked for us. He became a pastor. A few years ago, he received his church in Woodbridge, Virginia. I showed up to celebrate with him his opening Sunday. He wasn't expecting me. I saw his wife in the lobby and she took me to where they were praying in a circle in the sanctuary. I walked in. He embraced me and said to me, "She's the reason that I'm here." It was so honoring but what was bigger was he reached across to a very large African-American gentleman across the circle and said, "She's the reason you're here."

That gentleman came over to me and gave me the biggest bear hug. I still don't know who he is. I'm in shock. He says to me, "I was the young drummer in that go-go band that no one else would let play but you. You gave me that opportunity. I'm being ordained as a pastor in this church." That was so amazing that God would orchestrate. I know this isn't supposed to be a spiritual conversation. For me, that was so affirming to heal that wound of needing to walk away from something I felt so powerful about and to know that those seeds continued.

I would encourage anyone who is feeling that place, "Why did I have to leave this? What is next? Will what I did matter?" I've had multiple opportunities. I had a child reach out who's got a crisis in his life where his wife died unexpectedly. This was a seventeen-year-old who I felt was probably one of my first children before I had children. Those seeds were sown. Trust that what you did was the right thing and you are not responsible for the end game.

You said it's not supposed to be spiritual. Charles, my dad, always told me, "Ninety percent of growth is spiritual growth. If you don't lock in your spiritual foundation, forget it. You can build everything else up but your values, convictions, core, and what you're living for, none of it matters." I'm glad you went there because our audience knows exactly the importance of that.

The other 10% is probably the physical realm. I want to move on to the next one, weariness. My father would always say, "You get home. You're tired. There are people who should be doing what they're doing. They're not. You're picking up." As somebody who dealt with a chronic hormone imbalance where my adrenal gland was shot for about three years, I thought I was depressed. Our bodies are going back to dust. Our spirits are eternal but we still have to maintain this mortal coil. Can you talk to us about weariness, especially with the work you're doing? No matter how much you pray and all that stuff, we have to finish the race strong physically too. Unpack that for us.

Not to change from the spiritual, God has given us this body that works so well together. He never intended for us to run as we do. The Sabbath is not implemented where we're giving our bodies and our minds permission to rest. When I stepped away from the organization that I worked for in DC and moved back to Central Pennsylvania, my husband and I adopted our middle daughter from foster care. It's something I knew we were very passionate about. We had two biological children and adopted the middle one. I thought, "I worked with kids with guns, knives, and fights. I got this."

God has given us this body that works so well together, and he never intended for us to run like we do.

She took me down. She was seven at the time. I didn't understand all of her special needs as we got into it and grew. She took me to a place where physically, mentally, spiritually, and the whole thing, I didn't even myself anymore. Years ago, I was like, "I don't know who this person is." I was not sleeping. I was depressed, overweight, and all the things. I go to my doctor and say, "What's wrong?" My doctor says, "That's part of getting older. You need to relax."

Maybe the relaxing part of that was true but not explaining it to me in the way that resonated. I was like, "How am I going to relax? I have 3 kids and 2 jobs. I can't relax." I was getting up at 4:00 AM at the gym to try to do all the things. I felt terrible by myself. I felt like a failure in this realm of my world, "What is wrong with me?" I finally learned about this place called BeBalanced in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Somebody told me about it. I didn't even make an appointment. I just showed up. I was like, "I don't know what it is. I don't care what it is. I just need help."

I always said that what we did in DC was offer hope. Hope came in so many different packages like education, recreation, spiritual development, community resources, and all the things. I realize what we do at BeBalanced is offer hope. There are many women that come in a very vulnerable state as I was who don't understand that the most kind and loving thing they can do for everyone in their world, family, and kids who work for them or with them is to take care of them.

Many of us view that as selfish, "I shouldn't do that. I have a badge of honor because I've given everything that I have to everyone else." I love that but you're going to run out. You are a vessel. It's not never-ending or infinite. What I want to tell women is that BeBalanced changed my life. I lost 60 pounds in 3 months. That was not magic. That is by getting my body up and functioning. I have an amazing team. I have six centers of BeBalanced. I could not do what I do without building a team of women, empowering them, and giving them the resources to do what they do.

BeBalanced is about giving your body. God has given us a team of hormones that help with weight management, sleep, energy, depression, anxiety, stress, libido, hunger, and all the things. "I'm hungry. I'm full." Those are all hormones. We have a team inside of us. If we're not resourcing that team intentionally and not helping that team with what they need to be able to do their job, we are failing. A lot of women follow the traditional, "I'm going to work out harder and eat less."

That is not learning how to resource your body and this is a whole different episode about all of that. I learned all of that. A funny story is that I learned how to take care of myself differently. I say to mothers of daughters and mothers of sons, "Me learning to take care of myself differently also gave my daughter permission to draw boundaries around herself and realize that giving 100% of herself away to everyone around her probably is not a fair ask."

When we step back and say, "I'm going to go ahead and put this around myself," which is what I encourage our women to do in different capacities, it's okay. Everyone will still be supported. Everyone is still loved but saying, "I'm going to make this healthy meal. If you're not happy with what I'm making, I'm not making five meals. This is healthy. This is going to sustain your body. There's peanut butter and jelly over there if you need it," helps them to draw lines around themselves.

"I need twenty minutes of relaxation. I'm going to be headed to the room. When I come back, I will help with homework and do all of that but it's my time." We're always the ones that get put to the side, "The other emergencies are much more important." We are going to be an emergency soon if we don't deal with it. I was an emergency that was unable to deal with all that I had going on.

BeBalanced was something that empowered me. It also changed how my family eats. My son has always been an athlete. I learned through BeBalanced how to source an athlete and give him healthy foods. My son has cooked his food since he was in tenth grade. He is a senior at the Naval Academy. Your husband is from the Naval Academy. We have that. He's learned how to take care of his body as an athlete. He's played lacrosse at the high national level with Under Armour and the Naval Academy.

BeBalanced taught me things I didn't know about nutrition and how to source your body effectively with good supplementation, minerals, and vitamins because we have to be intentional. God has given us all that. He's made our bodies to need it and receive it. Being intentional about those things is important. Gummies are not intentional. It drives me nuts when women tell me they're taking a gummy vitamin. I'm like, "You're a big girl now." That's a whole other conversation as well.

How I got to BeBalanced though is that BeBalanced changed my life but there was only one BeBalanced in the country. At that time, my dad, my brother, and I had worked in a business together. My dad and brother owned it. It was about building log cabins all over the world, which is something a whole other story that I learned a lot of leadership from. I had to work in an all man's world. I was the only woman who designed and learned from going from working at a nonprofit in DC to learning how to manage building codes, snow loads, wind loads, and R-values. All of that was a whole change for me.

I was working in that business with my family when I came back to Central Pennsylvania. That time was 2010 when the housing bubble crumbled. We lost the business. We knew a business broker in Lancaster who was helping to franchise BeBalanced. I did this program. I didn't tell anyone I was doing it. I didn't tell my family because I was like, "Can it work? Can I do it?" I didn't know. At the same time that I was doing BeBalanced, this business broker went to my brother and my father who he knew, and said, "There's this new thing that they're franchising. You should buy it and Paget should run it."

Talk about providence. I told my parents I lost 25 pounds in the first month. They were like, "Isn't this a thing that we were introduced to?" It all came together. Long story short, we opened the first BeBalanced location and then I have six. My leadership at BeBalanced has changed from working with clients and empowering individual clients and women to empowering my team to do what they love.

Weariness was very real. I can't change the stress that's coming at me, none of us can, but what I can do is be intentional about fortifying my mind, body, and adrenals to manage it. Understand that that's a real thing. You can't expect water out of a stone. You have to infuse what your body needs to be able to give at that level. Many people say to me, "How do you run a company that has 7 Airbnbs and 6 BeBalanced, have kids, and do all these things? You must never sleep." I sleep well because I created a team internally that's doing what I need behind the scenes.

That reminds me of that Lena Horn quote, "It's not the load that breaks you down. It's the way you carry it." The one Facebook meme is we all have the same 24 hours a day as Beyoncé. How does she do it? It's because she has a team. I love that you said, "Resource your body." You hit on a very wonderful point about leadership as you're growing a business. It's no longer about you working in the business in the details but you're working on your team because that's where entrepreneurs get so burned out.

"I'm still doing everything," but you're not supposed to. Even if you're working at Walmart and you're a manager, you're no longer supposed to be doing the day-to-day stuff. You're supposed to be developing the people underneath you. That's awesome that you did that. I don't care how healthy you are or how well you're eating. You will still burn out because we're still limited physically in what we can take on.

I love that they feel good about what they're doing, that they feel empowered, and that they feel successful because that's what brings me joy. If I micromanage them and don't allow them to live into their spirit, it's not benefiting me in any way, shape, or form.

That's not leadership. Especially as an entrepreneur, you need people in line with the vision. I love that. Let's talk about abandonment. We're animal lovers. Abandonment has a very negative connotation. Fear of abandonment as a woman is a bad thing. My dad would always tell me this because I was like, "How did you get so successful?" He's like, "I have no idea. I do more in a day to contribute to my failure than my success."

He explained to me abandonment and how abandonment is to stop doing what you like and want to do in favor of what you ought and need to do. It's being very focused on what is going to get you forward, whether it's the people in your life, habits, or even what you're watching on TV in your spare time and what you're putting in your mind. With everything you have going on, how do you stay tightly bound or focused so you can pour your energies where they need to be?

I have to think about it because I've gotten pretty proficient at naturally being able to sift through priorities and what matters. It was so funny because I had this conversation with a staff person who is younger and was asking. For her, one of the things that holds a lot of mental energy is worry, "What about this or that? What are we going to do with this?" In my mind, the way I deal with it is I always have a plan B, C, and D for whatever could potentially happen.

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Leadership: One of the things that holds a lot of mental energy is worrying.

I said to her, "I have learned, for example, with worry, not to allow that to enter energy in me and abandon worry because if I know that I can deal with the worst-case scenario in any particular situation that I'm thinking about, then I take it off the table and not give any mental energy to it. If that happens, anything from here to the worst-case scenario, I got it."

I've gotten good at being able to weed through it but I've also been able to give myself permission. We talk about what's on TV. Sometimes my husband says, "I can't believe you watch this. This is mindless." Sometimes I give myself permission to watch mindless things too because so many times, I feel, "I should be listening to this podcast or reading this book." Sometimes I have to give myself permission to abandon productivity for a minute and say, "Enjoy this for a minute."

Something else that came to me that is relevant is I have a lot of guilt sometimes when I should be working harder. For example, I took two weeks. I love going to Columbia. My brother lives in Columbia. We spend a lot of time in South America and Columbia. I was down there for two weeks in the summer. One day, I said to my brother, "I feel guilty. I should be going back to work."

He said to me, "That's the most ridiculous thing because you are feeling guilty for creating the life you wanted and living the life you created." I've also abandoned guilt in that too. Getting older, abandoning some of these things, and not apologizing for them, for me, became so important, "Why am I feeling guilty about this? Everything is fine. Everyone is doing what they need to do and I'm living the life I created." It was a real awakening for me.

I love that you brought up guilt because somebody called me on something once and said, "Guilt is a self-imposed emotion." It's up to me to stop putting that on myself. It's guilt, shame, anger, and all that. The fruits of the spirit are God-given but all the bad stuff is self-imposed like frustration and anger. I opt out of it. I'm so glad you said that. Remember, it all starts in the mind. This is where everything programs this beautiful thing that God gave us. We have the mind of Christ, and then it goes to our emotions, hands, behaviors, and habits.

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Leadership: We have the mind of Christ. It goes to your emotions, hands, behaviors, and your habits.

I love that you said that because that's where everything begins and starts. You tell your mind, "I'm going to mute that." It always pops in but we're all going to be tempted. I was reading the book The Potential Principle by Edwin Louis Cole. It's one of my favorite books. It's an old-timey book. He says, "The only two ways the devil can attack children, brothers, and sisters in Christ are temptation and accusation." You have to be on guard for temptation and flee from that but an accusation is, "Shouldn't you be doing this?" It's like, "I'm going to mute that." That's negative self-talk or stinking thinking. We do it to ourselves way more than the world. Everybody is like, "The world is so awful." I'm like, "Do you know what's more awful?"

When we talk about hormone balance, we are doing life coaching and health coaching through this process. One day, I was so frustrated after meeting with multiple women. I did a video, put it out there, and felt like so many of us say the things to ourselves that we would not say to a stranger on the street and tell ourselves, "I never succeeded in that. I can never do that. I'm not good enough at that." I can't take it. I need women to start shifting that. "Maybe I can't do it now but I haven't learned it yet." We're still always in process. I was so sad one day feeling like so many of us talk to ourselves like we wouldn't talk to our worst enemy. It's sad.

We deny the blessing. Somebody will come from a doctor and be like, "The test came back good." They will say to me, "I still might have this." I'm like, "You killed the blessing. Stop. You got good words." Don't speak that stuff. Abandon that nonsense. What does the Bible say? Not one iota of worry can add one hour to your life. Stop it. We're post-COVID. What was more horrible than COVID? It's that negative and depressive fear and anxiety, which kills more than anything else in the world.

That's the biggest thing we need to abandon. Thank you for that. There's loneliness, awareness, and abandonment. You have unpacked the vision already. Vision is so important to you and you are so good at it. Share with us. How do you hone your vision? A lot of people are like, "I'm passionate about stuff," but passion is different than vision. Can you explain what vision means to you?

Thank you because sometimes I would say I'm not very good at that. I hope you take it anyway. I don't know if this is a conventional answer. One thing I'm good at is not being intimidated by people who are better than me and surrounding myself with an amazing team of women who have a similar passion, which helps us create a great vision. I see too many women feel threatened by their staff, "I need to keep her down here." I'll tell my clients, "You're lucky if you get to work with them. They're so much better than I am."

Surrounding myself with an amazing team of women with similar passion helps us create a great vision.

My vision comes from inspiration from my team with their ideas. All of it comes together like a puzzle to create the vision. I don't think that I'm the only one. I don't have the only vision. I'm surrounding myself with amazing women who have passion, words, ideas, and resources. That's how the vision grows. Maybe I'm not that good at vision but I'm good at surrounding myself with great people and resourcing them to a shared purpose.

A vision is shared. If it's not shared, it's just your dream. Leadership is all about everybody looking through the same lens. Sometimes it's like, "Leader, you pick the vision and then everybody else gets to see it." Your approach is the real approach. You put that beacon out and vibe with your tribe who coalesces around that. I can't put the vision in anybody. You already have your vision, passion, and intrinsic gifting from your skillset and how you grew up with the things that happened to you when you were younger but if you radiate that beacon, that's enough for the right people. That was a discerning unpacking of vision. Thank you.

Thank you. It has been fun.

We did loneliness, weariness, abandonment, and vision. Is there anything else that we haven't hit on that you would like to share with our tremendous leaders out there who are living the life, fighting the battles, and enjoying the triumphs and the heartaches too?

One thing that I've recognized is I am such a believer in servant leadership. When I was in DC, I would be down cooking meals, cleaning things, and doing whatever my staff was doing so that they could see that I was not asking them to do anything I was not willing to do. I feel that way. I've grown a little bit in a different capacity so I don't always have that ability. I am in the trenches. I'm taking appointments. There are certain times when I am taking client appointments if we're short-staffed. That's always good for me to stay in the know to understand what the staff is going through so that when I give feedback, they know that it's from a place of, "I've been there and done that." That's helpful.

I was in one of the centers. I gave two client appointments and came out with success on both of them. I was like, "What's so hard?" They laughed at me. I was joking with them. It's important though that I've had to move from servant leadership and being in the trenches with everyone to empowering those to do it. There's a book CEOs Are Stupid. We as CEOs have to learn how to know enough to be dangerous but not take on every minute detail of what our staff is doing. I have great staff who know how to do what they need to do. If I needed to do it, I would figure it out. I would probably be slower than them because I'm not doing it every day.

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Leadership: As CEOs, we have to learn how to know enough to be dangerous but not take on every new detail of what our staff does.

We were having a leadership conference. One of my staff said to me, "Is that why you always ask me to do that?" I ask you to do it because number one, you could probably do it faster than I could. I'm traveling between centers and you're in front of a computer. I also don't have to know how to do everything because you all know how to do everything.

Too many leaders that I see use up too much mental capacity knowing the details of everything. I know who to call when I need certain things. I have watched and learned which of my staff are good at certain things and thrive in them, and then I ask them to do those things. I'm trying to be intentional in my team. I share my team between Dallas and Pennsylvania. Sometimes the Pennsylvania team is doing things for Dallas. We work as one organization but I know somebody loves making graphics and designs whereas someone else can do it but is drained by it. That's where I'm going.

My leadership has evolved. I'm old enough to say that because I'm recognizing how old I am as my staff is getting younger. I don't have to be in the trenches every day anymore. I just have to know that I've got great people around me who know how to pull it off when needed and they feel good about that. I praise them and catch them doing great things all the time.

Even when I'm in Dallas, people say, "How do you manage a Dallas team from Pennsylvania?" They always say, "You're always watching. I don't know how you always see." I always catch them doing great things and tell them right away that I saw it. That's how I make them feel like I'm not forever away because I care about what's happening to them, whether I'm onsite or not.

My job is to make their job easier. We have this saying among our teams that we have a team that has to be willing to tell me something I don't want to know and receive something they don't want to know. A lot of times, after we finish meetings or conversations, we will say, "Tell me something I don't want to know." I, as a leader, have to be willing and able to hear that and they, as my team, have to be willing to receive it.

That is powerful stuff. Brené Brown says that unclear is unkind. Clear is kind. We dance around stuff. I love that you talked about the evolution from servant leadership as you get older because you do realize it's about being in the trenches but then we are beyond that, not that we're better than that. There are other people who have to be at that level of servant leadership and we have to be up at this. That's part of the evolution of a leader and bringing your team up because they should be able to step into your shoes so you can go up to this transformative or transformational leadership, which is the next level up from it. What is the best way for our audiences to get ahold of you? I know they're going to want to get in touch with you.

BeBalancedCenters.com is our website. I have multiple locations in Harrisburg, Camp Hill, and York. If you're in Dallas, Frisco, and McKinney are good places to go as well. My information will be there. It's Paget.Rhee@BeBalancedCenters.com. I would love to hear from anyone. I always love to hear what people are doing, their successes, and challenges, and celebrate with them.

Speaking of vision, are there going to be more than six BeBalanced? What's on 2024 and 2025?

There are always those potentials. For me, it's about giving women the opportunity to change their lives and support their quality of life moving forward as they age. I did this when I was 45. I went through early menopause because of stress and all the things. Many women don't even know that these things are possible to be addressed naturally and strategy-wise. For me, it's about getting the word out there. We do it virtually or in person. You don't even have to be by one of our centers. We're helping you understand how to support your body. Sometimes it's mental shifts and physical strategies but it's not rocket science.

I've climbed Machu Picchu. In the last few years, I've mountain biked with my athletic son down Killington. We have done lots of fun things. I am so blessed. I wouldn't ever have done those things without BeBalanced. I do want women to check it out and understand that there are resources and even empower them so that when their doctor says, "You need another blood pressure medication. You need this or that," maybe ask the question, "What could I be doing that would eliminate the need for that?" The more medications we are on, the more our liver needs support.

Until I got to BeBalanced, I didn't think about all of these things and how they were impacting my body. We work with a lot of gut health because stress is impacting a lot of gut health. Forget about the shots. People don't understand these weight loss shots. We are a weight loss program but it's about getting your body up and functioning so it can act as it needs to with these shots. You're taking over your body's function so that when you stop doing it, your body doesn't know how to do it anymore on its own.

Take over your body's function so that when you stop doing it, your body doesn't know how to do it anymore on its own.

We are seeing more problems with people's gut health. We're very passionate about helping women. We see women whose lives are changed. Look at our reviews. Everybody is taking different things away. I had an Army vet with PTSD. When she came to us, her body was so depleted. She got back from a trip to Hawaii and came in glowing. She says, "I attribute this to changing my life." I can't even talk about how much it means to be. This is so much more than vitamins and weight loss. It is life-changing. Thank you for the opportunity.

As somebody who reclaimed their years ago, I am stronger, more active, and clearer in my thinking. Are gentlemen welcome too?

They have hormones as well, stress, and insulin. I would love to see them. We have good problems in that you're probably going to have to go off of some of the medications you're on. Your body is going to reclaim its ability and thyroid function. Do you know how many times I say to people who had hysterectomies, "Do you know why you had the hysterectomy?" "No one ever explained this to me."

This was a hormone imbalance you've been dealing with for years that could have been addressed naturally but instead, you've gone through this huge shift that has created more issues. We can't change that it happened. When I give them that a-ha moment and walk them through their story, they're like, "I wish I would have known that. I need to be more informed." That's where we get excited about women feeling empowered.

There's no amount of money in the world. The greatest wealth is health, and your spiritual health too. I am very pro-medicine once you do the hard work to get your body in check. With those three years of depression, I went through horrible sadness and gained 50 pounds. They're like, "You're getting older." I'm like, "I see women in their 70s who look hot and are on fire. Don't tell me this is part of life."

A funny story is a lot of our clients are doctors and nurses.

That's good for them because they need to represent most of all. The physician should be the one identifying that God made our bodies to be the most unbelievable things. There's something beyond that, something genetic, that triggers stress.

I'm not against Western medicine. That is not what I'm saying. There are a lot of ways that we could strategically and naturally support some of those functions. As needed, those things have to be done too. We were resourced with those options as well. I'm very interested in helping women, at least the low-hanging fruit.

Thank you again, Paget. What a beautiful, heartfelt, and top-shelf discussion on leadership. I learned so much from you. You're such an inspiration and a wealth of information. I'm truly blessed to be able to know you. Thank you for sharing with our audiences.

Thank you for having me.

You're welcome. Where would we be without our audiences? We would just be talking and nobody would be listening. To our tremendous tribe out there, thank you so much. If you like what you read, please hit the subscribe button. Do us the favor of a five-star review. That helps a lot when other people are looking for tips to pay the price of leadership and live a tremendous life. Please like or share, comment, reach out to Paget, and keep on paying the price of leadership. Thank you so much, everyone. You have a tremendous rest of the day.

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Paget Keller Rhee is the owner of 6 BeBalanced Centers, and she is passionate about inspiring women to live their best life at any age through understanding Hormone Balance and how it affects our physical and mental health!